(Closed) My fiance is going to hate my wedding dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 47
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Busy bee

Love that maxi dress!  I think you look terrific.  And pp are totally right, a strapless wedding dress is a completely different beast.  Also agree he won’t even notice it is strapless.

Post # 48
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@solidarity – My Fiance made comments like that too the other night!  He said the boutonnieres I was making looked tacky and clashed with the groomsmen’s outfits. And he rarely gives his opinion about fufu things such as weddings and colors which surprised me.  Anyways, I ended up crying and his female coworker (who is also my wedding assistant) the next day gave him a scolding for not being supportive of me.  Poor guy!  I actually felt sorry for him after that.  He apologized and agreed to be more supportive.

Overall, I agree with @crayfish.  What I’ve always learned is nothing turns a man on more than a woman who thinks for herself and chooses what she likes.  Men are actually turned off by women who want to cater and please them all the time (not saying you shouldn’t do it once in awhile, but not ALL the time).  So choose what you like and wear it with confidence!  That’s more of a turn on than any type of outfit/dress you can wear 😉

 

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Overjoyed:  I think that maxi dress looks good on you, BUT it kind of does look like it could slide off at any minute just because it sits rather low on your chest! But it is stretchy fabric that does that kind of thing– a wedding dress with structure is completely different than that, and will, if it fits correctly, not look like it’s going to come off! It might also cover a little more of your chest, which might be a good thing since your Fiance seems to be so worried about that! ;P 🙂

How about very very thin spaghetti straps? Or just tell him, “if you insist on my dress being a certain way, then I get to determine what you wear!”

Post # 50
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Helper bee

@Overjoyed:  My SO feels the same way! He really dislikes strapless for that reason exactly. He doesn’t like the way girls boobs look in anything strapless and feels the dress is just going to fall right off. I had a beautiful strapless a-line grad dress (we were not together when I graduated HS), he saw pictures and came right out and said he didn’t like the dress because it’s strapless. That is exactly my fear, that if I get a strapless dress, he wont like it and won’t think I look beautiful. 
They do make little lace sleeves you can add, and then take off for the reception or whatever…but if you don’t want to do anything to change the dress, then just rock it. I’m sure once he sees the whole picture (the hair, the makeup, the veil, the dress), he will think you’re the most beautiful woman on the planet and wont even give it a second thought.  

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Could it be the maxi dress part that he’s objecting to? I have NEVER heard a man say he likes maxi dresses. My Fiance and my guy mates all say they look like maternity wear regardless of whether you’re curvy or rake thin.

You said your dress is custom made – that way, it will fit your body well and will look  AMAZING on you! I think the things your Fiance might dislike about strapless maxis (risk of falling down over your boobs, shapeless look) will not apply to your wedding dress.

I did show Fiance a picture of my second choice dress once I’d bought mine and he pulled this ‘yuk’ face. Luckily, my dress isn’t too much like the one he apparently found objectionable. And I think he’ll love it on the day because his future wife is in it! 

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Overjoyed:  OK first let me say that you look great in that maxi dress. It really brings out your personality and – I hope you don’t mind me saying – your incredibly fantastic boobs!

Honey, I have a feeling that the combination of an amazing dress and the military artilery bra (LOL), he’ll be so focused on your amazing boobs that he won’t notice anything else.

Guys not liking maxi dresses is an entierly different thing to them not liking strapless wedding dresses. A lot of girls look terrible in maxi dresses – I think you look great because of your boobs – and you’re always seeing them tugging the damn things up.

That said, I can understand you being nervous about your FI’s opinions. While I don’t exactly trust my FI’s opinions on fashion, I would probably take into account if there was something he violently objected to, so I don’t have to worry on the day if he’s traying to make himself like it. I didn’t choose an asymetrical/diagonally ruched dress because Fiance commented that he didn’t like that style. But I have dragged him to enough vintage fashion exhibitions now that I think I’ve trained him to like the stuff I do, heh.

So, as the PPs have suggested, maybe you could add spaghetti straps to your dress just to reassure yourself? If your dress is beaded, you could get beaded/splarkly straps to match the rest of the dress. So long as the straps aren’t wide, they wouldn’t take away from the strapless look too much. The main thing is to put them in the right position along the neckline so that they flatter you (generally I think this position should be as close to the shoulders as possible).

The other option is, depending on the type of veil you have, to wear it so it’s falling over your shoulders. If the veil is edged or has lace on it, he’s not really going to be able to tell if you’ve got straps or not.

 

 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Overjoyed:  an artilery of undergarments- love it! 

I’m sure that he will love you in your dress- and I think that they way you look on your wedding day should be for both of you- YOU need to wear what you feel amazing and beautiful and goddess-like in, and if you do he will see nothing else!

 

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Overjoyed:  He needs to get a grip In My Humble Opinion. Rock your dress everyone will tell him he is nuts if he doesn’t like it

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Men don’t know what they are talking about

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He’s a guy, they don’t understand! don’t worry, you will look absolutely gorgeous on your wedding day, and he is going to think the same because he is marrying the love of his life!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

There is alot of people out there that still don’t consider strapless dresses completely appropriate for weddings. If he’s a traditional guy or comes from a traditional family he might be more comfortable with a dress with straps. 

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Overjoyed:  add straps!!!!!! or a bolero or a little overlay….cap sleeves there are so many options…

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Overjoyed:  I think those straps are really pretty, and the fact that they are removable is a real bonus. Maybe you could just wear them for going down the aisle and then – one he’s blown away by how fantastic you look and realizes the dress is not going to fall down – take them off for your photos and for the rest of the day.

 

Post # 61
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Muppetfan:  I agree. He’s going to love you in it because YOU are WEARING IT on your WEDDING DAY. A strapless maxi dress =/= a strapless wedding dress. At all. Yes, your Fiance could have been kinder and gentler in what he said and how he said it, but ultimately, you’ll look gorgeous and he’ll love it. 

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