(Closed) My Fiance is gone to Iraq for 6 months…

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

futureb, Oh I think you are more than fine! I planned my entire wedding in 6 months! lol. If you have the big things knocked out beforehand, it seems like you have plenty of time after he gets back for both quality time together and planning. Sorry he has to be gone so long though, and in a scary situation too. Is he full time or reserve? Stay strong, it will all be that much more amazing to have him back.

Post # 18
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That really sucks, BUT, it’s ONLY six months! It feels like a LONG tme, I know, but it’s not! You can get so much done in 6 months to keep yourself busy. All those little things that he won’t wwant to participate in. It’s particularly hard b/c it’s Christmas, but it’s only six months, keep reminding yourself that! It’ll be over before you know it! 

I’d rather DO wedding stuff. It kept me SO busy and like, looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel. if i hadn’t had the wedding, I’m pretty sure I’d have gone crazy! But 15 months is a long time to not have a wedding to plan, lol.

Plus he’s going to need some serious down time when he gets back. Trust me, the last thing he wants to do is look at wedding stuff! He’ll need a few weeks, maybe a month to decompress and start feeling normal.

Post # 19
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think you’ll be totally fine.  When I was planning, I did a rush of things in the first couple of months (like booking church and venue like you) and then had a big lull where I leisurely did DIY projects and stuff.  Then in the last 3 months or so it was crazy busy again.

So I think you are just fine!

Post # 20
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

First of all congrats on your engagement. I will keep your Fiance in my prayers. I think you will be fine since you will already have some of the big stuff done by the time he gets back.


Keep in mind though that he might need some down time when he gets back this always happens. In about 2 weeks I will be heading out to Afghanistan for 6 months till June and this will be my 5th deployment. So I know you need some down time when you get back to get into the normal groove of regular life after months living on a base, seeing and hearing all that madness around you. I just wanted to make sure you understand that you may not be able to go hard into planning as soon as he gets back.


Good luck with everything!


Post # 22
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My hubs just got back in August!  Everything will be okay and you will have enough time to plan!  :)))

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