Post # 1
and it’s freaking me out!
I told him about 4 years into dating I never wanted children, then about a year before he proposed i started rethinking that decision and decided one child would be okay, then about 6 months ago my fiance spring on me he wants two children. I am alright with this under one condition..
We wait till Im atleast 30. I’m 25, 26 in Jan, and need a few years to grow my business and be a damn good wife.
This morning we are watching TV and a cute dog comes on screen. i love dogs. have wanted a dog for years now, have a family dog at home that is wonderful but is the family dog so i cant take him from the house. i say, “i want a dog so badly.” Meant in passing i suppose. Then fiance says, “i want a baby.” …
I so badly wanted him to be joking. But not a single crack or jest. Not even a smirk.
My fiance has baby fever and i dont know how to stop it! help!
Post # 3
Well, here’s the thing: you don’t. You talk with him and explain what you would like to happen, and discuss it. First come love, then comes marriage…he should see the progression here. BUt it needs to be a discussion–and will likely require a compromise between the two of you.
Post # 4
Mine too. We are planning to have children shortly after we get married, but it’s been baby crazy city in our house for over a year. I think that being excited about having a baby ONE DAY and being excited about having a baby TOMORROW are different things.
Maybe sit him down and have him do up a budget for your post-wedding life together; one without kids, and one with kids immediately. Sometimes people (men especially) don’t realize how much children cost. That sticker shock might give you a few more years 🙂
Post # 5
Great advice! Im going to do that tonight. Thanks 🙂
Post # 6
Mine is the same way. We are a little older and have been together for 8 years, but we just got engaged in Feb and he is trying to rush the wedding so we can have kids asap!!! I told him he should have thought about that years ago! LOL!
Post # 7
do you think it’s the length of time that makes them more.. feverish? lol
We’ve been together seven and a half years and I was beginning to think maybe he was wanting one sooner cause we’ve been together so long.
Post # 8
Mine too, what the hell is up with this!?!?
Post # 9
@Lilubird you may be right! I think guys finally wake up one day and realize they aren’t getting any younger! LOL!