(Closed) my fiance is verbally inviting the world and his dog!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would usually say if there wasn’t an official invite, then don’t worry about..

But since this seems to be a cultural thing from what you mentioned, the polite thing to do would be to track these people down, and write/call them and say “I know my fiance and I had mentioned our wedding to you in hopes that you could attend, but we’re changing our wedding to a more personal ceremony with close relatives and friends”. Something along those lines…

People should be understanding, and don’t feel obligated to invite someone just because they paid for a trip on their own free will.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@newname_99:  they literally called him and said they had booked flights and hotels as a surprise.

This happens in real life? I thought such things were only possible in movies haha. Well, tell him he’s not allowed to talk about the wedding anymore if all he’s going to do is invite people that you then have to uninvite, and hurt their feelings.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If he is going to invite these people, then he has to uninvite them himself.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Cady:  Brilliant! I’m not sure why I thought SHE should/would have to go around cleaning up messes HE made!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

oh no!!! I feel for you!!! My fiance gets a little crazy about it too!  He also gets in the moment, and asks different people to stand up in the wedding party!!  I have to keep telling him, you can’t uninvite people, so next time you get in the moment, just try to remember that we are stuck with that person if you invite them.  He’s been a little better lately, especially when he realizes that our meal is $100 a plate and we cant be inviting all the people that serve him coffee at dunkin donuts. 🙂

I’m sure he’s just so excited to be getting married!

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