(Closed) My Fiance isn’t interested in wedding details

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hello date twins! Guys are kind of conditioned to let a wedding be a “girls thing” . Just try and communicate with him how it makes you feel, and that you want him included! If he won’t contribute then he doesn’t get to have a say or get mad at something.

In the meantime please share al your excitement with us! The hive is a place we all come and freak out 🙂

Post # 4
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, come here and talk all you want! I know it is frustrating to feel like the only one who gets excited about the wedding. It’s not a reflection of you, @Mrs.Argentina is right, many men are conditioned to leave the details to their fiancee. And sometimes, it doesn’t feel “concrete” till the day of (I know I felt this way). But that doesn’t mean he’s not excited!

For the most part my Darling Husband was like your Fiance, but he turned out to be kinda picky on some wedding details! Trust me, sometimes its nice to be able to run with your own vision 100%…LOL

Post # 5
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I stressed about it and would find myself worrying if he was getting cold feet.  The truth was, it just wasn’t his thing.  He tried hard to follow what I was doing, but really didn’t get into it.   He was supportive.   I even had a hard time getting him to talk about ceremony details until the last few weeks.  

It helped to have a few friends to talk to.  Girls appreciate it so much more.  Darling Husband was blown away when he saw the whole thing play out on our wedding day.   He truly had no idea the amount of work and detail there was that day.

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Mine is like this too.  We are still a year out but I have done most of it on my own.  He glanced at the venue photos quickly, said “It’s nice” and that’s it!

Try to look at the positives.  It leaves you free to do things the way you want to.

If you would like his help with something, maybe try phrasing it really simply and straightforwardly like “The wedding is coming up so fast, do you think you could do ______________ to help out?”.  I realized that I was rambling off ideas constantly, kind of thinking out loud about different options etc. and he just doesn’t care.  I get much further by deciding on something in my mind, running it by him (so far he hasn’t shot anything down), and going from there!

Not sure if that helps!

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