(Closed) My “fiance” just called off the wedding :(

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t sound like he’s calling the wedding off.  It sounds like it’s a cry for monetary help or an “Oh crap I just realized i’m in over my head in debt let me take this by the horns now”

It’s good that he realized this now, better now than after the wedding.  In reality, you should have discussed finances first, before even getting engaged…  It is the #1 reason after all that people get divorced.

Not sure if he’s dead-set on paying for it.  If that’s the case than you might have to hold on for longer.  It’s imporatnt that you both feel okay with either the amount of debt you’ll incur if you get married right away, or waiting until he’s debt free.  If he can pay it off by the time you get married, maybe you and your parents can shoulder the cost of the wedding.

Also, how important is it to you to have a big wedding with lots of people?  If you can get away with a small wedding, you can majorly cut costs.

Another option is to keep your date, but use someone’s house to have your wedding.  Do your parents or his parents want to offer up their home and yard for this event?  Maybe a close relative or friend?

Post # 48
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

He called off a wedding, not a marriage.

I would bet if you said “JoP marriage, no reception, no flowers, no DJ, no other stuff, just the two of us” he would do it in a second. 

Post # 50
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

glad things worked out…’cause looking at this too it didn’t appear as he was calling off the wedding just letting you know where he stood financially!  VERY WISE man!

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