My fiancé lied about another girl, am I overreacting?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Am I overreacting if I break this off?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No : (198 votes)
    99 %
  • Post # 92
    Member
    1058 posts
    Bumble bee

    My ex husband did this shit, trust me…they’re not “friends”. 

    Post # 93
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    10951 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Undecided345 :  

    You’re in counseling so he can come to conclusions as to why he acts the way he does?  Bee, do you have any idea how codependent that sounds?

    He can work on his own issues, in his own therapy, if he’s sufficiently motivated, which I doubt.

    The PPs are right—they keep trying to help you and you keep posting excuse after excuse for his transparent behavior.  It eventually becomes exasperating.

    The painfully obvious truth is that your Fi is untrustworthy.  He is not a man of good character.  No amount of therapy will change that.  It’s who he is.

    If you want to stay with him, knowing what you know, that’s entirely your affair.  But, at least be honest with yourself.  Make your choice.  Then own it.

    Post # 94
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    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    @Sassy411: Yes I completely agree. what’s the point of going to counseling together? Seem’s weird and i think it’s OP’s way of holding onto this false hope that he is going to “change”.

    Post # 95
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    3686 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Not only do I think it’s not overreacting if you drop his sorry ass, I think you’d be a fool to stay with him.  

    Post # 96
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    1308 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    when you see him through rose-colored lenses, red flags are just flags.

    Post # 97
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    161 posts
    Blushing bee

    I hope that you end the relationship. You aren’t overreacting, if anything you are under reacting. 

    Post # 98
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    8555 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    BalletParker :  

    because he didn’t   want to ‘get shit  for having a new friend’, then you say this was said as he was deeply resourceful.  Wonderful Freudian typo.  

    Post # 99
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    8555 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Undecided345 :  

    Dearest OP  is this   This is my 3rd engagement in life (25, 30, 32) really  so????? !! Do you mean  actual  engagements  to be married with a ring and all  all? If so, you clearly aren’t  a failure” . You  are a honey pot ! Just slow your roll and take it eeeeassssy in future . 

    Oh  and your future   should not be with this one I hasten to add! 

    Post # 100
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    11585 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    elderbee :  haha! I saw that too, but it was after the edit window. It is, as you say, quite Freudian.

    … This is the part where I pretend I am that clever and intended it all along😎

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