Post # 167
i have guy friend that works the bar at a strip club. and takes deliverys and orders from guys just like your fiance. The deliverys are taken during the day as are the sales calls FROM THE OFFICE. The girls arent there at that point and the ones that are ‘practicing’ for the night tend to be fully clothed. he always tells me he was excited initially at the thought of working at a strip club with all these half naked women but the reality is he has practically no interaction with the girls even though he works the bar and the girls arent all that great anyway up close.
I say relax, put your aprehensions aside, show your suppot for your fiance, remind him that hes there to work not play and dont make issues before they arise
Post # 168
I guess I will be in the minority here, but I’m gonna say that your relationship > this job. If I had the opportunity to take a job, but my fiance was VERY emotionally opposed to it, chances are, I would not take the job. No amount of money is worth his distress and discomfort. I still don’t understand 1. Why your guy would be excited about this and 2. Why he would need to build a rapport with EVERYONE at the club. He’s selling alcohol, period. He doesn’t even need to be there during club hours, good god. If I were in your place, I would let my Fiance know that this is only acceptable to me if he visits the club during non-naked lady hours and speaks only with the people in charge of selling the booze. Otherwise, guess what? I’ve got boundaries in the relationship and if you feel like crossing them, there’s the bloody GD door.
Post # 169
Sorry but I think you need to figure out a way to get over this one. It’s not like he’s going to be sitting around getting lap dances. He’ll be in and out to make a sale – it’s not like you need much prep work to get a strip club to buy alcohol. He probably meant he was excited because of the amount of alcohol they will buy for him, it will be a huge deal for him I’m sure.
Not to mention, I’m sure most of his work in person will be done out of an office in the club, not sitting around at the bar.
Post # 170
First off, I want you to know that I feel for you. I can’t imagine how stressed this is making you. You are in a tight spot. I think in the end you know that he needs the job right now. That doesn’t mean he can’t look for another job, right? OR is there another job within the company he can apply for after so many months? You told him how you feel. I’m sure he knows ur not thrilled with it. Give him the opportunity to prove it’s just a job.
Post # 171
Well it sounds like you guys aren’t really on the same page on going to strip clubs. I really think you need to get over it because it’s his job. And yes, with this type of job he will be talking to strippers and cocktail waitresses. He will have certain products he will need to encourage them to sell. It sounds like maybe he has always wanted to go to strip clubs and hasn’t been able to but now that his work brings him there he’s found the loop hole and is excited to see some naked ladies. He’s a man, I think it’s only natural.
Post # 172
Ladies, I think it’s safe to say that the OP has received the advice that she needed, and that this thread has run its course. Closing this thread now! 🙂 Thanks!