(Closed) My fiance said he likes moms cooking more than mine. How did I react?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 32
Member
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 1984

View original reply
@augstbabie78:  Meh. I’ve been married 36 years. I’m a great cook but, according to my husband, his mom’s cooking is better. She made a fantastic apple pie and a peanut sauce that was to die for and let’s not forget her roast beef and Yorkshire puddings – you get it.

Now, my DIL tells me that my son told her that her apple pie doesn’t compare to mine. I’ve giver her the exact recipe and we’ve even made it together. 

I think it’s a nostalgia thing, I really do. I don’t think I’m a better cook than my DIL. And my son, who has most of my recipes, says he can’t get it quite right either despite learning how to cook with me. 

Post # 34
Member
5159 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
@augstbabie78:  People told you it was childish. That’s not name calling. It’s an adjective to describe your reaction. When you post something here, be prepared to be open and hear things you will not agree with and same thing in real life (ex. what you shared about your SO saying his mom’s pasta sauce is better). You’re not the only one it happens to. 

Post # 35
Member
1764 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
@Mrs.Bill:  

I also think that the nostalgia aspect can play a role sometimes.

Post # 36
Member
10342 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m glad you were able to work it out. I know my husband and I have had our share of ridiculous arguments. It happens in every marriage.

Post # 37
Member
5159 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
@augstbabie78:  If this gets you bent out of shape, then good luck dealing with real life. Oh, I will enjoy my night much better than yours.

Post # 38
Member
247 posts
Helper bee

I’m glad you took consideration of the posts here and adjusted your behavior. I agreed with all the previous comments saying it was immature but it takes a level of maturity to accept that you were wrong and apologize. Good on you! 

Post # 39
Member
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

OP, are you a trained chef? I’m not a bad cook, but I would never compare myself to my mom or Mother-In-Law. Just sayin, I think you were setting yourself up for failure with that line of questioning.

He’s been eating his mom’s cooking his whole life. It’s not terribly surprising that he thinks it’s better than yours. Give him a break and for goodness sake be nice to him. 

Post # 41
Member
5159 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
@augstbabie78:  When I read that “insecure little girl” comment, I took it as another “childish” description again just like what others have already said. I have a life because I DO NOT get upset if someone cooks better than me. You win some, you lose some…THAT’S LIFE! And you too, stop calling the kettle black. Follow your own advice.

Post # 42
Member
4203 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have definitely overreacted to something ridiculous and behaved badly, so I get it. The biggest thing is not that you never make mistakes, but that you’re able to recognize them, apologize and take ownership. Good for, it’s not always easy to admit you’re wrong.

Post # 43
Member
29 posts
Newbee

Agree with the PPs that said we are all human but the most important thing is to recognize and apologize when we are wrong. And we can all act irrationally esp when controlled by our emotions !

OP, glad it was resolved and you two were able to laugh it off. I also got a chuckle out of it. Your poor fiance! (but I kind of like a sassy attitude now and then 😉 ) Also thanks for sharing especially when you’re wrong. We all get into stupid fights with our SOs but most people wouldn’t want to share

It’s great that you are cooking the sauce more to better suit his tastes. I think a good marriage is a lot about how well you can love on each other. If it would help in the future, I’d suggest letting him cook more and then you can both give feedback on each others’ cooking. My hubby and I cook 50/50 are very open with our thoughts, suggestions/criticisms, and compliments and if it’s not great we blame the author of the recipe 😉

Post # 44
Member
308 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
@augstbabie78:  did you actually accept responsibility and apologise to your fiance though?

 Or by “explaining where you were coming from” were you really trying to justify your actions. The fact you said “and vice versa” makes me believe that somehow your fiance also had to end up apologisingand even though he had done nothing wrong… Which seems a a bit messed up..

Post # 45
Member
136 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t see the point in continuing to be ugly to OP. Times are tense. This sounds like a recurring issue that happened to boil over. She knows she over reacted, and fixed it. Relationship is fine – crisis averted. No need to name call and be mean for the sake of it. Proud of you Op

The topic ‘My fiance said he likes moms cooking more than mine. How did I react?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors