- 2 months ago
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I’m glad you and your husband were able to talk things out and that you reheated the leftovers for him.
Something an older male cousin told me years ago that I keep seeing the wisdom of in my own relationship- Beware of being someone with whom your husband cannot be honest. Especially beware of being a wife who sets emotional traps for your husband. That kind of behavior will undermine your marriage in the long run if he feels the need to hide parts of himself from your ire.
Rather than taking it personally that your husband checks in while you are cooking, why not invite him in and you two cook together? My husband and I are both excellent cooks, but I don’t enjoy making entire meals on a daily basis. Cooking with him is much more pleasurable and we bounce ideas off of each other and create some amazing results in the process. I also enjoy days when I get to just arrive to the table to a fully prepared meal that I didn’t have to be responsible for.
Also, memories of meals from childhood are often an amalgamation of many meals over many years rather than one particular meal. That means that your one meal you may be asking about is being compared to YEARS of his mother’s meals. It’s unfair of you to even request the comparison (unfair to yourself and unfair to him).
Finally – I think you should look at how you take in feedback or critiques. You seem to solicit input and then get defensive and lash out (based on the story you came here to share and also your responses to other posters) and then come back around. Which makes me wonder if other people in your life experience you as someone they can be truthful with or if it’s safest for them to fudge truths with you?
l don’t think you understand the pot/ kettle/black thing. You did a silly, childish thing , asked to be told it was reasonable and are now pouting because no one is going to. I hope this actually is a fake post tbh.
lt seems you have now sorted it with your poor husband. Good for you . I hope you now you can extrapolate that behaviour to other criticisms you solicit .
l have to say though, he would have been so much better advised to say yours was as good. l bet he will in future lol.
Hi again everyone.
The this topic is long gone and forgotten about in our house, we had a great Friday night afterwards so not sure why some strangers on this forum still have their panties in a bunch about it,
thank you AGAIN to everyone who gave helpful criticism and I enjoyed reading through your posts and got some good chuckles as well it was helpful!
@socialgirl1689 The reason I never addressed anyone directly when I asked for no name calling was because I didn’t feel the need to. But after you continued to come back again and again I am obviously going to respond directly to you at that point to clear up the exact point a name was called, since you were unable to determine that yourself it was also surprising to me that when I checked these responses just now, your still commenting? I hope you haven’t lost sleep over this topic lol
topic is closed everypne no more advice is needed 🙂
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