(Closed) My fiance said he likes moms cooking more than mine. How did I react?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 61
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

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@augstbabie78:  I’m very glad that you guys were able to quickly get over the situation and laugh about it. Sometimes we snap over silly things and look back and just go, “yeah I was being ridiculous, sorry”. Hopefully you now feel confident about the fact that he enjoys your cooking and you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to his mother moving forward.

Post # 62
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m glad you and your husband were able to talk things out and that you reheated the leftovers for him.

Something an older male cousin told me years ago that I keep seeing the wisdom of in my own relationship- Beware of being someone with whom your husband cannot be honest. Especially beware of being a wife who sets emotional traps for your husband. That kind of behavior will undermine your marriage in the long run if he feels the need to hide parts of himself from your ire.

Rather than taking it personally that your husband checks in while you are cooking, why not invite him in and you two cook together? My husband and I are both excellent cooks, but I don’t enjoy making entire meals on a daily basis. Cooking with him is much more pleasurable and we bounce ideas off of each other and create some amazing results in the process. I also enjoy days when I get to just arrive to the table to a fully prepared meal that I didn’t have to be responsible for.

Also, memories of meals from childhood are often an amalgamation of many meals over many years rather than one particular meal. That means that your one meal you may be asking about is being compared to YEARS of his mother’s meals. It’s unfair of you to even request the comparison (unfair to yourself and unfair to him).

Finally – I think you should look at how you take in feedback or critiques. You seem to solicit input and then get defensive and lash out (based on the story you came here to share and also your responses to other posters) and then come back around. Which makes me wonder if other people in your life experience you as someone they can be truthful with or if it’s safest for them to fudge truths with you?

Post # 63
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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    @augstbabie78:  

l don’t think you understand the pot/ kettle/black thing. You did a silly, childish thing , asked to be told it was reasonable and are now pouting because no one is going to. I hope this actually is a fake post tbh. 

lt seems you have now sorted it with your poor husband. Good for you . I hope you now you can extrapolate that behaviour to other criticisms you solicit . 

l have to say though, he would have been so much better advised to say yours was as good.  l bet he will in future lol. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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@augstbabie78:  Dude..isnt it like an unwritten rule that a man is never supposed to say to his wife out loud that his mom’s cooking is better than hers? That’s like the cardinal rule. It’s the theme in every sitcom the wife getting upset that her husband finds his mom’s cooking better. Dude should have just said OP’s was better.

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper

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@elderberry:  Watch out, she might accuse you of “calling her names” (if she even comes back). I explained this to her several times on earlier pages that her actions were childish but she got super defensive.  However, she never addressed the other people who, she thought were calling her names directly which is baffling LOL I thought this was a fake post myself too but who knows LOL

 

Post # 66
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@socalgirl1689:  

Lol, think it is real now. It’s kind of funny really …..Just so long as she never asks him if her ass is better than his mother’s.  

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

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@soexcited123:  that’s tv- in real life adults can have honest, mature conversations.

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee

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@augstbabie78:  

Do you know how to close your thread?  It’s an option on your screen.  People will likely post more unless you close it yourself.

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