(Closed) My fiancé said he wants to postpone our engagement…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 108
118 posts
Blushing bee

If you bought the ring on your credit card and you made the payments, then that ring is yours. I wouldn’t give it to him. 

Post # 109
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

DO NOT GIVE HIM THE RING! That would be stupid. It’s in your name and you are paying for it. All you can do is ask him to keep his word and if he doesn’t, he doesn’t. You, at least, know what kind of dude he is (and likely not what you thought – everyone shows their true colors when things go south) and you can have peace knowing you don’t have to deal with this POS in your life anymore. There are many lessons to be learned here and I’m sure you are figuring them out. It sounds like you’re doing well. I second the PPs comment about cutting contact with his mom. At the end of the day, its her son and she has his back no matter what. She will likely get just as attached to the next series of women he strings along. 

Now, you know to always keep your independence. Don’t rely on other people for your well-being, happiness, or even expenses. You just do/ worry about you and you will always know your worth which will prevent something like this from happening down the line. Those updates when you kept saying “I just want to hear it from him” and “I just want closure”. You could have had closure by giving it to yourself. You should have told him YOU were done and deserved better than what he was giving. ::hugs:: keep your head up, you’re doing great!

Post # 111
11153 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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Anjelica :  

Oh, ow!  First break up is hell on earth.  You just want to know why, why, why?!

Eventually, you figure out it doesn’t matter, it just is.

Someday, I’ll have to post about the time, decades ago, that I got dumped right after Christmas (he made sure he got his gift). I called everyone I ever knew in my life as I was getting completely smashed and had to go to work the next morning.  I was working in a psychiatric residential treatment center with adolescents at the time.  I showed up with a bottle of Pepto Bismol and passed it off as a flu bug.  Staff knew better, but the kids were surprisingly compassionate.  Pepto got me through the day.  

Six months later, when he showed up on my doorstep (right on cue), I couldn’t remember what all of the fuss was about.  

Oh, I guess I just did post about it.

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