- 1 year ago
- Wedding: August 2020
honey19 : Hmm, this is tough. It sounds to me like he really loves you and wants to marry you, but he’s feeling pressure from the outside sources like your church and your parents.
Maybe you two could go to a counseling session together and discuss how to not let outside sources negatively effect your relationship? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with you two, I totally get how you would feel pressured. But I think it’s important for all couples to make the decisions that are best for them–not based on what you feel pressured to do.
As to setting a wedding date, I think you two should have an open discussion about your thoughts and feelings on it. I have felt the same frustration with my SO about him wanting to accomplish certain things before being engaged, and me wanting to hurry up and get married already! I’ve heard from many people that women tend to think about marriage in terms of who they want to travel through life with, while many men tend to think about being ready for marriage as more of a destination that can only be reached when things are “right”. It can be frustrating, but the good thing is that maybe your fiancé has his heart in the right place and is worried about being responsible, having a good career, etc. I hope you two can have a fruitful discussion about all this, and congrats on your engagement!