Post # 1
Firstly, I’d just like to let everyone know that he’s okay considering (doctors said he was very lucky).
A week before xmas my guy set off on his motorbike to deliver presents to his family, on the way back a car overtook on a blind bend and went straight into him. He’s had both legs badly broken, a broken thumb and broken teeth. One of his legs had a completely shattered tibia and fibia; he’ll have to go through so many operations before he can even think about using crutches. I just can’t beleive this has happened. I feel so angry at the driver, he took a bad risk and he could have easily killed my fiance. Our lives would have been ruined. I am SO grateful that he’s still alive but we both feel so down about the accident. We had so many plans for this coming year; getting married, buying a house and we were thinking about starting a family once we’ve settled into our house. We need to spend the year concentrating on my guys recovery because of someone trying to get home a few minutes early. Has any bee ever been in a similar situation? Will I ever stop feeling anger towards the driver?
Thanks for reading Bees 🙂
Post # 3
We need to spend the year concentrating on my guys recovery because of someone trying to get home a few minutes early.
wow,that’s so true and so sad at the same time. i got chills up my spine reading that. thank heavens your man is ok, but yes- that is still tragic. i hope you are suing the other driver?
Post # 4
Thanks for your message! Yep, we hope to get some kind of compensation. It’s so hard watching my fiance in so much pain all the time, he’s unable to do anything without being in agony, even just lying in the bed hurts him 🙁
When he got hit, no one went over to him to help. He was freezing cold in the middle of the night (on a dark country lane) with both his leg bones coming through, he was so frightened that he was going to get runover by another car. It was so traumatic that he’s now so scared of the road, he keeps having flashbacks 🙁
Post # 5
so sorry you are going through this! i wish him a speedy recovery!
Post # 6
How awful and terrifying! I’m glad to hear that he is going to be okay, but still very sorry to hear about the struggles you both now face over the next year. I know you are probably sick of hearing the whole “at least he didn’t die” phrase (which, while true, is not always a great consolation when you are also left feeling “Why us? Why now? What next?”). My only advice is to be there for each other and try to support each other in every way possible. Lean on people around you who offer assistance. Chances are he might find himself depressed about his situation and current state of helplessness. Make sure to let him know that although this is a setback, it isn’t going to affect your plans for a happy life together. And although the future may seem uncertain at the moment, don’t stop talking about all your plans for life. It will be a bright spot at the end of a dark tunnel…happy thoughts of a second chance at life to get you both through the rough spots! *Hugs*
Post # 7
Yes. I have a friend who’s daughter was hit and killed. She felt overwhelming animocity towards the driver…so much so that she was even disturbed and ashamed of her feelings. As with all things…time heals. She eventually let it go. Focus on helping your fiance’ get well. After a while, nothing else will matter.
I’m so glad he will be okay.
Post # 8
So sorry this happend, sounds aweful. And do you mean the driver did a hit and run? How did you find them?
Wish you and your Fiance all the best ((((hugs)))))
Post # 9
The same thing happened to my Fiance about 6 years ago, except he was the one that overtook a car on the blind turn at too high a speed and put himself in the ditch. He is very lucky to be alive and while he was able to walk away from the crash he was thrown into the backseat of the car (the seat actually broke) and so did a lot of damage to his back and neck. He was off of work for a year from severe migranes and he is still suffering with the damage it did to him, years later.
All I can say is to take it one day at a time, while you are angry at the driver I am sure the driver feels just as terrible. Focus on your FI’s recovery and try and be as supportive as you can, the recovery will be long and frustrating but you will get through it.
Post # 10
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you two.
Post # 11
Wishing him a speedy recovery!