(Closed) FMIL preferring other bride over me

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@ecmsmile:  If you are also an immigrant than you know that detail shouldn’t matter! If you think she is shady and everything then you shouldn’t be jealous about anything!

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@Sheepshead:  I agree! It IS very tasteless! And you are right! It’s not a contest!!

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@MadTownGirl:  What makes you think being an “illegal” immigrant makes you not have any money?? My friend’s boyfriend is undocumented and he owns a nice elegant restaurant!

 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

Ignore them. Your Future Mother-In-Law will be upset when she realizes she didn’t give any input. The more you focus on it, the more you are reacting the way she wants toward her behavior.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2005

MIL’s are difficult and often unpredictable.  If you were close to her to begin with you might want to discuss this issue with her privately.  If you have never been that close maybe she just found something she has in common with the Future Sister-In-Law. 

While I say to each their own regarding “drug” use, I think the other reasons you gave for her being shady are perfectly legitimate.  Dumping your children off to someone is not right; just to get pregnant again to(most likely) do the same thing doesn’t make sense. Plus, she already committed a felony by crossing the border illegally.

BUT, if your Future Brother-In-Law wants to marry this woman, knowing her past, that is HIS problem, not yours.  Don’t that that burden on to yourself. 

I say that you just enjoy your wedding planning and know that you are marrying a good man! 

Enjoy being a bride!!

 

Post # 21
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Newbee

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@MrsDocHorrorShow:  

 

The problem doesn’t automatically get solved if the other bride marries an American citizen.  Deportation can happen for various reasons.

Post # 22
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Newbee

To the OP, I can understand your feelings.  You mentioned that the rest of FI’s family is offering help, focus on that and not on your Future Mother-In-Law favoring the other woman.

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