Post # 1
My family has already fix the dat oct13,2011 for this year but my fiance’s brother said he did not have the money to take care of the wedding since they have already done 2 of their siblings early this year.i disscused with my fiance about it,he said he’s the one that remain like a father to the family since his dad had died,he does not know what to do.we have been courting for like 8yrs now.am confused right and i don’t usually call my fiance the way i do again because of the recent issues that happen.we are both working.pls what should i do?
Post # 3
That sucks but the solutions are pretty simple. You can either
A. Pay for the wedding yourselves. Even if it is not your dream wedding, if you are getting married, you should be financially able to pay for your own wedding.
B. Thank your Future Brother-In-Law for his generous offer and go along with whatever date he chooses/amount he is willing to contribute.
Post # 4
I see you are in Nigeria and I believe I’ve heard that Nigerian weddings are by custom huge elaborate events? So I can see why you and your fiance paying for it by yourselves might not be a solution.
I think your family and his brother in law should get together and come to an agreement. I’m sure it’s expensive and it’s reasonable if there have already been a couple weddings, for him to want a break in between. But make sure it is a small break (another 6 months or so?)