- 5 years ago
I usually ask for opinions on wedding ideas and plans, but today I come to you with a really heavy heart. Two years ago, my fiance and I were supposed to get married in Hawaii and his family ruined everything, made us cancel the wedding (even though we paid for everything), started figting with my family, and spread rumors about me.
Now, were planning on getting married again, but they’re doing the same thing. They are constantly being very controlling and very involved in our lives. They talk down to me all the time and keep saying how i changed their son and hope I am happy with myself. They have made my life a living hell. They keep making my parents fight with me. I don’t know what to do.
I love my fiance. He’s a complete different person when he’s with them than he when he is with me.
His family wants to have OUR wedding their way. They act like they have so much when in reality they don’t. His dad is very unhappy about us getting married. He even said so during our engagement party infront of ALL of our guests.
They hate the dress I picked, they hate the venue we picked, they have our rustic ideas. They hate the fact that we want our dogs in our wedding and we don’t want kids at the wedding.
I am so tired of pleasing these people. I’ve done so much to please them and make them like me, but I cant take it anymore. I feel like once we get married, things will only get worst.
Please advise me. I don’t know what to do. I cant just get up and leave and he’s not standing up for me. He’s supposed to tell his family to leave me alone and that he loves me and wants to spend his life with me, but he doesn’t. He just keeps saying he wants to stay out of our arguments. It kills me that I am alone in this relationship. I haven’t spoken to him in two days. He doesn’t even care to call me to see how I am doing.
I am so confused and heartbroken.