(Closed) My Fiances family hates me. I am thinking of calling it off

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should I do?

    Leave him

    Work it out

    Suck it up and let them do whatever they want to do

    Let them plan the wedding

  • Post # 47
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m so sorry!!  My fiance’s parents don’t love me either, but for the most part, they butt out.  We said no kids and are having our dog and his mom said “Really!?  Don’t do that, it’s so Paris Hilton.”  I’ve learned to brush it off and just move forward.  The big problem I am seeing is that he’s not worried about you. He needs to be on your side and stick up for you.  It sounds like this is an ongoing issue…… I hope he changes, but if not, you do deserve better.

    Post # 49
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    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    @babylo0n:  “Yeah he never stands up for me and he doesn’t even care. This is so hard.”

    I never say this…you need to leave. He chose to spend the rest of his life with you and needs to stand up to his family. Nobody should let a person they love be treated like crap. Ever.

     

    Post # 50
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am sorry to say this, but if he won’t stick up for you, then I’d leave. I’d never suggest leaving a Fiance but what happens when you have kids? Are the in-laws going to be sticking their nose in that too? Are they going to tell you how to raise your children? If he isn’t sticking up for you now, he won’t be sticking up for you then.

    He needs to realize that is going to be your husband and that he needs to tell his family to back off. I think people forget that the wedding is about you two. Sure, it’s also about the guests and celebrating with you two. But it’s your wedding – you decide how you want to spend your special night!

    Post # 51
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    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I just wanted to tell you, I LOVE YOU! Everything will be ok, and you deserve a man that will defend you to the death, I’m old school.  I’ve been there so please know that there are many of us that have been through this, and as much as I don’t want to hurt you, I learned the hard way that marriages with those kind of clouds over them don’t last.  You deserve better please settle for nothing less.  I know you will find the man that never lets you feel alone and his mama will LOVE you too. 

    I can tell by the he changes around his family that deep down he seeks to please them. PLEASE do not compromise your happiness for that. There is someone in this world that will treat you likke a princess and defend you as such too.

    Post # 52
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    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I personally couldn’t imagine with such terrible for the rest of my life (remember when you marry him… you marry his family…). I know it would be hard but I would throw the towel in.

    Post # 53
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    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    and remember… people do not change. They might temporarily, but … they don’t permanently.

    Post # 54
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    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    ELOPE– WITHOUT them! f- em.

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