Post # 1
Anyone had a very close or immediate family member pass away so close to their wedding?
This has devastated his family, and of course my fiance. We had planned our photography group shots well in advance and had to sit down and re-do them and take him out, which felt so hurtful.
I feel like getting married is taking away from that and I am worried that the day is going to have a bit of a sadness to it to.
Anyone experienced this that can help me out? I don’t know what to do…
Post # 3
Wow. I have not been in that situation but it cannot be easy. I’m sure his dad would have wanted you two to have a wonderful wedding though, so i hope you try to have an amazing day anyways. Is there anyway you can honour his memory at your wedding?
Post # 4
Yes, and our dates are basically the same. My grandfather passed away on November 1st of 2011. Almost exactly 4 months before our wedding. He was the most excited person for us to be getting married and pestered Fiance for years about a proposal! He was the only man in my life that was there for everything, he was like my rock – I am not that close to my dad or my step-dad. I cried like a baby when I had to erase him from our guestlist.
The thing that has been the most helpful, and has made me smile through my tears, is this. I think it was another bee actually that said it: “He’ll have the best seat in the house.” It will definitely make our wedding different, but at the same time, grief is a part of life, and life goes on. We’re honoring all of our missing relatives on our program. I am tying the sixpence he gave me to my bouquet. Small ways to honor them without it becoming overwhelming.
I’ve also been the SO in this situation, though it wasn’t our wedding. FI’s grandfather passed away Christmas 2009. It’s forever tinged that holiday and it’s tough. You’ll know what to do when the time comes. 🙂
Good luck Xx
Post # 5
Thanks, bees. It is hard and we are going to light a candle in a lantern at the start of the ceremony but not say anything… its better left unsaid and private.
It was so sudden when he passed away, was gone in a second and that is why the family is so grief stricken over it… and I hope we can honor his memory.
I would rather have him there, he was so proud that we are getting married.