(Closed) My FILs live in a frat house

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why has it taken your Fiance this long to do something about the condition of the home he shares with his parents? 

Post # 4
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@gemchick82:  I also dated a guy with a serious hoarder family!

It was disgusting. They’d invite people over for Thanksgiving, and no one would eat… Or sit, because EVERYTHING was covered in STUFF!

Post # 5
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First and foremost… a HUGE Round of Applause for BOTH you and your Fiance.

You may have been grossed out… but clearly it shows how much he LOVES you to trust you enough with this info.

(BTW… I get WHY you are posting this / venting here on WBee… but in reality, he may not appreciate you talking about / standing in judgement on the family he loves.  Not to say he doesn’t KNOW what is going on, but maybe he’s not that keen to share it with the world … you know.  So you might want to keep this under your hat in real life)

My guess is something is going on in the home if it is as bad as you’ve described.

People / Families that have “issues” with Home Management or Hoarding, typically have a medical problem that have tipped the scale in that direction… be it something physcial or mental.

(Sometimes a huge tragic event / sense of loss for example, can account for this type of situation… )

Try to be patient & understanding with your Fiance, and maybe he’ll reveal more.


Post # 6
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yikes. Even if they are hoarders, I completely understand why you would be so disgusted. 

I feel so bad for your fiance and his sister. 

How did the clean up go? Were you able to get the kitchen disinfected?

Post # 7
7217 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@gemchick82:  Oh your poor FI! Good for you for helping out with that mess for your FI’s sake.

How old is his sister? Is she able to remove herself from the situation anytime soon?

Post # 8
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Um, I’ve been in a LOT of frat houses (went to a big Greek school), and none were that gross, ha!


Good for you and your Fiance for cleaning up for them. Do the Future In-Laws see therapists? Or are they disabled and/or otherwise can’t clean up after themselves?

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