- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
i guess this is karma paying me back! i have always bragged about how i haven’t had any problems with my bridesmaids and how great they have been.. but now i have hit a little snag.
i have three bridesmaids, and we all went shopping back in august to pick out dresses at david’s bridal. i told them they could pick any dress they wanted as long as they were the same length and color, but they all ended up picking the same dress and they didn’t even try on any more (we were only there for like 15min!) anyway, the dresses are $140, which to me is a decent price. it is customary around here for the bridesmaids to purchase their own dresses and shoes. one of my bridesmaids is my cousin, whom i have been best friends with basically my entire life. i was in her wedding three years ago when i was a broke college student, but i still was able to scrape up enough money to afford a dress, shoes, jewelry, and up-do, and wedding gifts.
so anyway, david’s bridal said the particular dress may be discontinued in january, so the girls should order their dresses no later than january 1st just in case. the girls have had 4 months to purchase the dresses, and my other two bridesmaids have already ordered and paid for theirs. well i just recieved a text from my cousin saying that she will not be able to purchase the dress before january. she also said that her parents wouldn’t be able to help out because they are having a tough time financially as well. she wants to know if i will be able to buy the dress and she could pay me back when she gets her taxes back in april. if it were the other two bridesmaids, i would do this in a heartbeat. but my cousin is known for not paying people back and i honestly feel like she is just trying to get out of having to pay at all.
a little background- i got laid off from a very good job 5 months ago. i am receiving unemployment, but it’s not even a quarter of what i was making before. i spend hours every week looking for jobs, but so far i haven’t even had an interview. my cousin and her husband both work full-time. they have a child together, which i babysit 2-3 times a week. earlier this month my cousin asked if she could pay me less this month for babysitting with christmas coming up, so i said that wasn’t a problem (she’s paying me a whopping $2.50/hr!). i am doing a huge favor by babysitting for her in the first place, because if she had to take her daughter to daycare they would be paying triple that.
this whole thing just makes me upset because 1. she has known about having to buy the dress for months, 2. her and her husband work full-time and i don’t work at all, and i have christmas presents and bills too, 3. i was even more broke than i am now when i was in college and i still did everything she wanted me to for her big day, 4. her husband can still afford to buy hunting equipment, parts for his truck, beer, ect. and they already are paying me less for babysitting.
am i being taken advantage of, or am i just being insensitive? what do you guys think i should do?