My first first date in forever. Need advice!

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Worker bee

Just dont put too much pressure on yourself or the evening. You’ll have fun! And if you don’t, you never have to see him again. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

Keep an open mind, be yourself and if it’s awful don’t stay to be polite!  Also, the internet is full of dates, it takes a little while to find the right one.  It’s a numbers game.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Word of advice: have a definite end-point to the date. I know that doesn’t sound like fun, but seriously, I have been on dates where I talked too much and we got to the point where there was nothing left to say (most memorable was a three-hour long lingering). Also, it leads nicely into the promise of a second date, should you like the guy. 

Otherwise, be yourself and have fun! PPs are right-with the internet it is a numbers game. 🙂 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Make it short. Make it public. Coffee and a walk?

Pick somewhere you don’t normally hang out. You don’t want to spend half the night introducing him to friends.

Have a reason why you have to keep it short and share it at the beginning of the evening- last minute assignment, project deadline- whatever is pertinent.

Next time, meet sooner. When you talk so long, you build up an image in your own mind.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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piratesbooty :  Go into it with no expectations! Make it something casual, if you havent set plans yet. My SO and I were talking for 2 months before we met. We still had 3 hours worth of great conversation on our first date, so I dont think the “meet eary” rule applies to everyone so long as you can go into it without any expetations. My SO is actually the first guy I met from online dating that I didnt have any expectations for… go figure! 

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