(Closed) My First Post! Dream venue too small! Help!

posted 10 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Should I book the venue, or keep looking?

    Yes, the guest list will work itself out!

    Yes, but cut down the invites!

    No, you'll regret not having everyone present!

    No, it's not worth the stress!

  • Post # 3
    4831 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you invite more than you have room for you are really setting yourself up for lots of stress.

    Could you split your list into A list and B list invites?

    Send out the A list early, when those responses come in, you can start sending out B list invites for those who say no.


    Post # 4
    6610 posts
    Bee Keeper

    The “industry standard” is that 20% of guests will decline. But that’s just a guide, and you certainly can’t count on it. It may be more, but it may also be less.

    If it’s your dream venue, I’d suggest making the guest list work to fit the venue, if you’re sure that venue is more important than the guest list.

    Post # 5
    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Typically I would say that your guest list will determine your venue.  So, if you have 225 invites, this place is out.

    However, if you think you can cut the guest list that much and still have your most important friends and family there, then do that.  I would not suggest inviting more than 130 people hoping people will say no.  They may not, and you’ll be stuck.

    Post # 6
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I voted dream venue! That’s what I did.. the location I have always wanted to get married at couldn’t accomodate what I was origionally was going to invite so I cut my list, for every reply I get that cannot come I’ll invite more. I would rather have my dream place then have more people. As long as it can hold all your family and close friends then you’re good to go, so far anyone that I cannot invite understands since I have a smaller venue.

    Post # 7
    1074 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I agree with KatNYC, I’d divide guests into an A list and B list and go for the dream venue.

    Post # 8
    2975 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    I say cut down the list!!! Tell your mom no co-workers.. best friends MAYBE. Invite family and important see everyday type of friends first!

    Post # 9
    1379 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I cut from 200 to 160 to 102. I realized that we had people on there that we really did not need on there. After I cut the list the first time I couldn’t even remember who I had cut. You know what that means….. they shouldn’t have been on there to begin with. Also, Fiance and I decided that we would only invite friends who both of us have met. In other words, he has a friend from college whom I have never had the pleasure of meeting, therefore, he is off the list!

    Post # 11
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m glad it worked out.

    A & B lists worked well for us and I had to fight to keep my mom from inviteing 30 friends as well, but it was worth it to keep the numbers down. When you look out at everyone, the last thing you want is to see a bunch of strangers.

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