My first post- feeling a little sad right now

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

I could be reading this wrong, but a timeline of not being able to have a definite talk until next year would crush me. Totally understand wanting to live together first and taking the time to enjoy each landing on the staircase of your relationship before climbing the next step! But if what you’re saying is he’s not ready now, and you’ve agreed to a timeline of not revisiting the topic as a whole until next January without having the option of discussing the small, fun, hypotheticals in the meantime (playing dress up in jewelry stores together, tossing around ideas of whose table the crazy wine-loving aunties will sit at, dreaming up ways to celebrate your first anniversary as husband and wife, etc) my heart hurts for you. 

Post # 32
3 posts

I agree with everyone, as well. Maybe wait another couple weeks or so and then bring it up again. You do not have to issue an ultimatum or anything, but you could say that you would like to discuss why he does not feel ready and how you can both be happy moving forward. 

Post # 33
131 posts
Blushing bee

You are being VERY reasonalbe 

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