Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
So far I’d been pleasantly surprised that everyone RSVPing has stuck to protocol for the most part. Yesterday however, I opened a shocker! One of my dad’s invitees, whom I’ve met a few times but am by no means close to, RSVP’d for 4 people. The hand calligraphed invitation was clearly addressed to Mr. & Mrs. “John Smith”… but on the name line of the response card they wrote their last name/another last name of a couple that I have never met or heard of! (Apparently it’s his employee & his wife) I am completely dumbfounded how this man who I hardly know thinks it’s ok to invite some random couple that my fiancé & I have never met! Anyone have any advice on how I should handle this? My dad said he will call him, but I worry that he’ll end up getting talked into letting them come, or leave it less than clear & they will still bring them.
Post # 2
It’s up to your dad to handle it. There really isn’t any other way. Just make sure you tell your dad that you don’t want those 2 people to come. I don’t see how your dad can get ‘talked into’ letting them come if you tell him you don’t want them coming? Who is paying. . .you & your FI or your parents? If it’s your parents then it shouldn’t be a big deal if he’s ok with them coming.
Post # 3
Ughhhh. Why do RSVP cards bring out the insane side of people?
Post # 4
Whhaaaaatt?? People are SO strange! It’s rude to write in your kids if they’re not invited but at least that makes sense but writing in an employee?!
Do you feel comfortable talking to them? If so, call them and just explain that the invite was ony extended to Mr/Mrs. John Smith. If you don’t feel comfortable (I for one hate talking on the phone lol) than maybe you can be with your dad when he calls them?
Post # 5
We’ve had people invited themself and invite other people to our wedding several times already. And we got a maybe back. While it does really suck to deal with, consider yourself lucky it’s only been one so far and only 2 extra people. One bee told me of how they had 11 extra people marked as attending on one RSVP card
Post # 6
Maybe your father can give this person a heads up that the extra 2 people weren’t in the original count, but if there’s room, then you’re happy to have them. It may not be too difficult for you to fit in the 2 extra people and you probably won’t even notice them on your wedding day.
Post # 7
lol what on earth?! That’s crazy; definitely have your dad talk to them
Post # 9
KDOS: That is REALLY strange. Are you having a big wedding where you wouldn’t notice the extra 2 people? Can you accommodate the extra 2 people? If not, I’d have Dad make the call.
Post # 10
That is really weird. You should probably take that picture down though…you never know who might come across it.
Post # 11
jamb: she doesnt want complete strangers at her wedding…..
Post # 12
KDOS: People are just so strange.. in what world would anyone think that’s ok?? Even if you can fit/afford the two extra people, why on earth would these two randoms be the ones to fill those spots!?
Post # 13
KDOS: Oh wow!
Personally I’d get my FI to call lol. He’s blunt, but very pleasant, great to deliver uncomfortable news.
If your dad is like mine I’d be worried about him calling too. My dad is kind of a push over sometimes and would totally feel guilty and probably end up telling them they could come just to ‘keep the peace’.
My advice, you or your fiance should call and express your appreciation for their RSVP but inform them you have a tight guest list and unfortunately there is only space for those who are on the guest list.
Whoops! Hope it works out!
Post # 14
oh boy. what a nightmare. let us know how it turns out!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
I am having a big wedding, way too big as it is…337 invited. I had to cut close to 100 people that we would have loved to have just to get it to that number.
Peanut-Sue: My dad is paying for the wedding, but like purrrbaby: said, I’d really rather not have total strangers at my wedding. As it is my dad got the largest section of the guest list since he is paying.
And you’re totally right Miss_E_xx: … it’s not a matter of just 2 extra people. It’s the fact that they are strangers. If I was adding more people, it would be someone I’m actually friends with that I had to cut from the original list.
OtterHalf: I’m not sure how to remove a pic/edit a post? Can you tell me how to? I only posted the pic, because it didn’t have their full name & I thought it was pretty hard to read anyway.