(Closed) My first wedding, his second, any etiquette tips?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mollykressig:  First of all, CONGRATS! 🙂 Second of all, I can’t imagine how thrilled your best friend children are that their parents are getting married! That’s like a dream come true for any kid! 🙂

As for your wedding… it is really up to you! What do you envision? Do you want a “typical” (Not saying that to offend anyone – I am having a “typical” wedding) wedding or something different since you’ve both been married? Do you want a big, fancy affair or something more casual? 

I think you need to set the budget and talk to your parents if they want to host to see what their budget is and go from there. As far as who pays for what, I don’t think there are really rules anymore. Lots of couples pay for it themselves. My Fiance and my parents are splitting the costs of our wedding. 

As for the other things you are unsure about, read wedding blogs, magazines or the bee. There is a TON of info at your fingertips. Good luck planning and congrats again!

Post # 4
1608 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congradulations!  I dont think there are any real rules – you should keep in mind that if your parents help, they may want a say in how things go. 

Post # 5
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mollykressig:  For showers, it really depends on if someone wants to host one for you.  They are nice but not required.  For gifts, a  registry is fine if you are hosting a wedding.  In some areas the etiquette is that if you got a gift for someone’s first wedding you don’t have to get a gift for their second – which would only really be applicable to your fiance.

Post # 6
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mollykressig:  I don’t think there are any rules per se – this will be my first wedding and marriage and FI’s second. He did have a big wedding last time and this one will still be a decent size one with all the regular trimmings. We didn’t feel the need to scale back because it is his second – decisions on guest lists etc. have been made purely on what we prefer (90ish people) and can afford. We did decline his parents offer of money towards the wedding as they already contributed significantly to his first one and because we are in a better financial situation than them anyway.

Post # 7
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

So exciting!  Congrats!

I don’t think there are any major rule changes in your particular situation. 

Shower’s could possibly be something you are concerned about, but 1) you don’t decide if those happen anyway (they are hosted by others, should they be so kind), and 2) no one has ever bought you a shower gift beore, so there really shouldn’t be an issue on that end.

I don’t think anyone cares about the white dress/virgin rule these days. 

The topic ‘My first wedding, his second, any etiquette tips?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors