(Closed) My First Wedding vs. FH Friend’s Vow Renewal

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

All weekend? Hell, I feel bad about asking people to come to the fantastic beach and they’re asking you to camp and wear costumes? This is really making me feel 100% ok with all of my plans. 🙂

Post # 18
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

Yikes… with friends like that… you know the rest.  I would honeymoon… for sure!  If your honeymoom plans would normally be over, then go… if not  NO WAY!  She sounds like a real pc. of work!

Post # 20
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

LOL, this sounds like it’s getting a bit ridiculous. Also, Kate MW, you said it best: “Well now, you should have mentioned that before. 🙂 Kill her!” You made me laugh uncontrollably, you did.

If your fiance already promised that you’d attend, I don’t know if you have much choice…then again, hearing about this whole affair kind of makes me want to tell you to skip out just to give this woman a bit of a reality check.

Post # 21
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I can say that I understand your pain when it comes to listening to another bride-to-be cut you off whenever weddings are brought up. SIL was pissed when we got engaged before her and before she even got engaged, she had a nasty habit of cutting me off whenever I talked about the wedding. Mind you, I only talked about the wedding when other people asked specific questions because I didn’t want to bore people with the details. But this is how the typical conversation would go with SIL (when she had a boyfriend, not a fiance):

Friend: So, what color are your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses going to be in the Alfred Angelo collection?

Me: Well, I think we’ve settled on…

SIL: I’m going to do either this color or this color…(then proceeds to talk about her wedding colors for 10 minutes. I never get to answer the  question).

I started avoiding talking about weddings around her because it was always about her wedding (she wanted to try on wedding dresses when we were going shopping for my wedding dress). That’s the best advice I can offer. She’s probably so excited about her vow renewal that it doesn’t occur to her that she’s being incredibly rude and dismissive of your wedding. Unless your husband-to-be really wants to attend their vow renewal, go on your honeymoon and enjoy yourself!

Post # 23
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Dude, this lady is insane! I’m all for romantic gestures, but it sounds like she wants a replay of her big wedding again from 5 years ago. 5 years sounds like too short of a time for such a monstrous shindig considering she already had one! And, while ren fairs aren’t my thing, she’s awfully presumptuous thinking you guys will postpone your honeymoon, camp there, and that she otherwise would have asked you to bake her cake for her. This woman sounds insane! Elves? I mean….whoa.

I forsee themed vow renewals every 5 years. This year rennaissance fair, in 5 years Indiana Jones, in 10 years pirate themed…you get the idea man.

How close is your Fiance with this lady? I mean, seriously. I think that despite what he already promised to her (i’d make my husband recall that asap), you guys shoud book your hm and say “gee we’re really sorry we couldn’t make it, but we just COULDN’T postpone it” and have your Fi say something like, “yeah, I just wanted her all to myself for a week” and leave this lady to dance with her fairies and eat turkey legs and joust at her vow renewal in her princess crown and red queen robes. She sounds like she simply cannot stand to not have all eyes on her. If she’s too self absorbed to realize this even though she has a child (who I bet she’s planning on dressing up like the court jester, awww cute), there’s no need for you to go.

Ok that was all a little snarky =]

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