(Closed) My FI's cat is driving me crazyyyyyyy!!!! uugghhh (long rant)

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1434 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Jennifferq:  Sorry you’re dealing with this situation.  It isn’t an easy solve 🙁

Do you think it’s possible to make the cat an indoors only cat?  That way he won’t bring fleas in the house.  I don’t think that it’s possible at this point to train the cat to stay off the couch, table, etc.  But you can prevent the fleas.

You can take the cat out on a harness and leash to get his outdoor exposure…


Post # 4
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

You definitely need to put good flea medicine on the cat and your dog. If you can get your hands on Revolution from the vet, that is the best. Fleas will not infest your animals if they’re wearing Revolution.


It is going to be hard to teach an 11 year old cat that he is no longer allowed in/on spaces that he has occupied his entire life. You can possibly buy some really cool cat furniture that he will like and periodically rub catnip on it. I got a huge cat tree for $60 at Petsmart and all three of our cats hang out on it all day. We put it next to a window so that they can look outside and watch birds.


I also use chicken flavored Temptations treats to reward my cats for good behavior. If I walk by them and they are chilling quietly and being good, I give them a treat. This is positive reinforcement.


Just be sensitive to the cat. He sees you as an intruder in his home. You also need to be sensitive to his emotions when the baby comes. Cats are extremely picky and it’s hard for them to adjust to changes. He needs to be introduced slowly to the idea of a baby in the house. You may have better luck getting the cat to do what you want if you make friends with him.

Post # 5
353 posts
Helper bee


@MsGolightly:  +1


Making it an indoor cat is probably the best solution for the fleas. Take it to your local vet and have them do what they need to do. I have a cat, and its impossible to keep him off anything. Unfortantley, thats just a cats life- they’re stubborn and very difficult to train. If it is indoors, at least you can be at peace knowing there are no fleas, espeically with the baby coming!

Post # 6
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I’m just wondering what you are using on the fleas? If it’s cheap stuff (like Hartz from Walmart) it’s not going to work, that stuff is junk and bad for your pets.

We use Advantage II on our cat (and the dog type for our dog) and we’ve never had a flea infestation. I have only seen 1 flea in our house and it was on me (I had just come inside). I check the pets regularly.

In my old living situation there were fleas and the vet suggested #1 treating the animals #2 using Adams products to kill the fleas. I used the carpet powder (make sure you get everywhere, especially under baseboards where my vet said they hide!) then vacuumed the entire house and then sprayed the flea & tick home spray on curtains/sofas/under sofas…basically everywhere and then washed bedding in hot water. After that I never saw a flea again.

As to the cat jumping on a bed? It’s a cat, they are going to do that. My cat jumps on everything. I have a spray bottle that I’ll spray at him sometimes but him being on the bed doesn’t bother me at all. If you really don’t want him on your bed you need to gently tell your FI why exactly you don’t want him up there (fleas, allergens, hair) and he needs to not let the cat on there sometimes then others not, it’s confusing to the poor cat!

Post # 7
2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What type of flea preventative medication is the cat on that he keeps getting fleas?   If he is not on a monthly preventative he should be.  

Post # 8
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

ETA: Some people are saying just make it an indoor cat, that isn’t as easy as it sounds. This cat has been going outside for 11 years, when my aunt tried that with her cat it pissed all over her bed/bedding and sofas it also started tearing things up and scratching, so this idea may not work. Also her cat was super annoying and meowed ALL THE TIME to go outside. IMO it’s not fair to just make an outdoor cat and indoor cat for no reason other than fleas, just treat the cat with good quality flea medicine and check it periodically.

Post # 9
36 posts

@Jennifferq:  If the cat has fleas then your dog has fleas too… even if you haven’t seen them on the dog. I am a vet tech and have seen this a lot. You need to get all of the pets in the house on a good flea preventative ASAP…not one from Wal-Mart or another store like that-many of those are toxic!! You need to get a flea preventative from a veterinary clinic. They need to be on it routinely as well-every month-you can’t just give one dose and call it good. You might also want to talk to your vet about killing the flea eggs that are now living in your carpet. It’s not impossible, just takes some work and you MUST be diligent with vacuuming etc. I would make this a top priority before the baby comes. The fleas need a living host (humans are not hosts to fleas) like your pets. Even though they are biting you they aren’t living on you or on the couch etc. They are living and thriving on the cat and the dog and any other animal. 

I have no idea what cat repellant is, but sounds kind of strange… If you really don’t want the cat on the kitchen counter/table -I completely understand. I am a cat lover but I don’t allow my own cat on the counter/table. I have had her since she was young so she doesn’t even try to get on them anymore. But, since your cat is 11 it will most likely be difficult to keep the cat off since he has never had to follow any rules. I had a friend who had problems with her cat peeing on her kitchen counters-nice huh? 😉 and she found that putting tin foil on the counters or hanging tin foil from the cupboards so it touched the top of the counters kept her cats off of them for good. Most cats don’t like tin foil. As far as keeping the cat off of the bed and furniture it is most likely impossible. I would recommend shutting all of the doors to the rooms you don’t want the cat in such as your bedroom. Does the cat have its own cat bed, cat tree or blanket it can sleep on? If not I would try getting the cat something special like that and maybe it will choose to sleep there rather than on the couch. If shedding is a huge problem try to talk your FI into brushing him every day or every other day-it will help a lot with the fur problem. You can also get cats groomed-i.e. a bath and brush out(which wouldn’t be a bad idea with the flea problem and all) 

Post # 10
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Jennifferq:  Not to get off topic, but cat feces can carry a parasite that causes Toxoplasmosis and can cause serious problems in pregnancy including aborting the fetus. This is spread through feces and if that cat is walking on the counters and tables ya’ll eat off of, that’s not a good situation.


 ETA: My boss has a cat that pisses and shits on her BED when she is not home, so she puts tin foil all over the bed and that keeps the cat off of it.






Post # 11
36 posts

@Billsgirl:  Just to add to your comment about toxo 🙂





You can get toxo levels checked, and maybe you already have since you’re pretty far along. In school we were taught it was still ok to clean out the litterbox even, but that it had to be done at least every 24 hours. If it had been more than 24 hours have someone else do it or wear gloves and a respirator. The CDC web site talks a little more about that. 


Post # 12
6016 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@coachhw:   That’s it Revolution, we use that on DH’s cat.  It was driving me crazy I couldn’t remember it.  We only used it once, but it’s an indoor cat, that got fleas from the dog.  

The tinfoil thing works!  My brother is highly allergic to cats, his wife had a cat when they moved in together, who was like 12?  We are talking  eyes swell shut and the poor guy had to clean the kitty litter box when she got preg, but he put the tinfoil on the bed and the chair he sat in.  It made a huge difference.

Post # 13
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I second what the other bees are saying about buying proper flea prevention for both your dog and this cat. It is EXTREMELY possible to prevent fleas, but you have to shell out the money for brand name stuff. It may be worth it to pay an exterminator to treat all your carpets once you start treating your pets with advantage or something similar. My roommate’s cat in college brought in fleas and we could NOT get rid of them until we paid for an exterminator but in the end it was SO worth it and they were completely gone within 2 days. 

Post # 14
3585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have to ask…does your dog get to lay on the bed, couch etc.??

Like others have said, you can get flea medicine and treat both animals.  You also need to treat your house.  That is why the fleas keep “reappearing”…they aren’t actually going anywhere.  Get some flea powder and put it on your carpets and vacuum.  Then vacuum daily for a few days.  Wash all pet bedding, your bedding, anything soft that can be washed.  Vacuum your furniture too.

As far as cat hair goes, and dog hair too, there’s not too much you can do but invest in some lint rollers and vacuum regularly.

You are not going to be able to retrain this cat…I’ve been yelling at one of mine to get off the table, refrigerator and counter for years…2 seconds later she’s right back up there.  I have accepted that she will do whatever she pleases.  I am her human, she is not my cat. LOL  If your worried about Toxoplasma, just clean (disinfect) the surfaces regularly.

Our vet had us give our dog garlic tablets daily to prevent fleas since he’s outside most of the time.  It works pretty well, but I’m not sure if that will work on a cat.


Post # 15
987 posts
Busy bee

@Jennifferq:  Does the cat wear a flea collar all the time? Like others have said, maybe it is easier to have it as an indoor cat to cut down on the fleas. You will also need to treat your entire house. You will also have to restrict the cat’s access to certain areas of the house (bedroom doors closed, especially the baby’s room).

I love cats (despite being allergic), but would never own one due to their general sneakiness and inability to do anything you want them to do! I wonder if there’s some kind of cat repellent you can spray on areas where you don’t want the cat to go? I have no idea if they work, but it might be worth looking in to?

Post # 16
36 posts

@MissCountryGirl727:  I have heard of quite a few vets recommending garlic tablets for dogs but it kind freaks me out… not dissing your vet at all (I know a lot of them recommend it)  just want everyone to be aware. 


Onions and Garlic

All close members of the onion family (shallots, onions, garlic, scallions, etc.) contain compounds that can damage dogs’ red blood cells if ingested in sufficient quantities. A rule of thumb is “the stronger it is, the more toxic it is.” Garlic tends to be more toxic than onions, on an ounce-for-ounce basis. While it’s uncommon for dogs to eat enough raw onions and garlic to cause serious problems, exposure to concentrated forms of onion or garlic, such as dehydrated onions, onion soup mix or garlic powder, may put dogs at risk of toxicosis. The damage to the red blood cells caused by onions and garlic generally doesn’t become apparent until three to five days after a dog eats these vegetables. Affected dogs may seem weak or reluctant to move, or they may appear to tire easily after mild exercise. Their urine may be orange-tinged to dark red in color. These dogs should be examined by a veterinarian immediately. In severe cases, blood transfusions may be needed.



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