Post # 1
I love my Fiance. He is military and the one thing that has been sacrificed in his life is close friendships. He will make acquaintences on his ships but soon he is gone from the area and contact is lost. Out of 8 groomsment, 3 are his friends and 1 his younger cousin. Sadly, we are now down to 2 friends because one of them has been redeployed to Iraq. The other two, I feel, are not taking this seriously whatsoever.
He is bummed because he has stated he may have to find replacements for them if they do not get their act together. I do not like seeing my beloved hurt but I know he is sad because he does not make lasting friendships. He is such a kind sweet man. My friends adore him. Only flaw he has his he is a radio that is talk on and on about boring military stuff hahahah.
What makes it worse is that his family is already telling us that they may not be able to make the 12 hour trip to our wedding due to gas prices. Gas is already over $3.50 where they are! They are very apologetic about it but their money is low.
His side of the church will already be skimpy as is. I am seriously tihnking about doing away with the “brides/grooms” side.
Any Bee been in this sitatiuon where the bridal party is mostly her friends?
Post # 3
This reminds me of that movie “I Love You, Man”…funny movie, I’d say rent it if you have the chance! (Caution: it’s a little bit raunchy)
FWIW, I wouldn’t worry about doing separate bride and groom sides of the church. Just have the ushers seat people on both sides without worrying if they are there for the bride or the groom. Really, they’re all there for both of you, aren’t they?
Post # 4
Even though my older family members will faint, I think I will forgo the different sides. Just save the 2 front rows for older family.
Our program is going to include information about our bridal party. I guess we could say “Friend of the couple” instead of friend of the bride.
Post # 6
I’d say forgo the split sides of the church, and just use it as another way to symbolize to families joining.
As for the groomsmen situation, maybe keep the ones that he has now and not give them much responsibility. Or, if he does have friends that he’s close to but that are deployed or unable to be there, keep them listed in the program and either have their spots open or just have the girls/the remaining groomsman walk down the aisle and then be seated for most of the ceremony. This way his close friends get recognition and he doesn’t need to feel bad that he’s got less people up there on his side.
Post # 7
For us, it’s the opposite. I moved here from Europe a while ago, and most friends I made here are from my country and have gone back or moved elsewhere by now. My Maid/Matron of Honor is coming back here for the wedding, but my bridesmaids are FH’s friends. Most guests are also from FH’s side. We will just have the ushers distribute them evenly, i.e. no “bride’s side, groom’s side”. As for my bridesmaids, they are wonderful ladies and I got to know them better through all the wedding stuff. It really worked out for us. Maybe your Fiance will make new friends in the process, too?
Post # 8
If worried about his side being skimpy, I would seat guests on both sides unless they request the “brides side” or “grooms side”. Most people really don’t care. They are there to celelbrate for the couple.
Post # 9
No ushers or explanation needed 🙂 I saw this picture floating around the Bee….no need for sides!
Post # 10
We’re doing “sit anywhere” also and for the same reason…I have a lot of family coming…his family has to drive 16 hours or fly and gas price is CRAZY!!!