(Closed) My FI's mother died on the morning of our wedding day…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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mslyss:  Talk about putting your problems in perspective. I’ve been feeling sorry for myself today. Shame on me.

What a difficult time. I don’t really how to offer you encouragement. maybe a year or two from now that same date might be something to consider? I’m so sorry.

Post # 32
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  • Wedding: June 2016

I went through a very very similar experience when my dad passed away. He had been suffering from leukemia for 2 years and passed away the day before my brother’s wedding. He had been in the hospital for a week or more, one of many hospital stays at that point, and we called in a priest to bless my brother and now sister-in-law in the hospital room so my dad could be present. We had not told him then that the doctors had told us he would not be well enough to attend the wedding. He came to that realization when the priest came in, asked my mom, and she confirmed the doctors couldn’t clear him to go. He fell asleep early that same evening, and slowly he left us, surrounded by all his family, who were all in town for the wedding. 

We still all went forward with the wedding as planned, with a candle on the altar to signify his memory and the presence of his spirit with us. We feel now, as we did then, that that was the only way he could be with us and see his son, the first in our family, get married. It still breaks my heart, and I miss him now so much as I plan my own wedding. 

It will hurt that your mother in law is not there, but there will be so much joy that day, you will feel her presence in all of the sweet moments of the day. The important thing is to find a way to honor her, and not let the sadness of the loss cast a shadow over your wedding. No mother would want that.

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