(Closed) My FMIL is driving. me. crazy. (long, sorry, I’m venting)

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


Ok, so, Fiance needs to collect the addresses. When I wasn’t getting responses, I put it on him to collect the outstanding addresses. 

It’ll be okay!!!

Post # 4
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


I understand how u feel when my fiance asked asked my his mom for adresses she replied by saying you know everyone I know..I was like WTF? but dont make it bother u just ask other family members dont make it get you down..Your fiance has to take a leadership role in this matter since its his side of family.

Post # 5
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

EEK! That sounds extremely frustrating!!  I agree with delegating to your fiance, it’s better for him to deal with it so you don’t strain your relationship with the Future Mother-In-Law anymore than it needs to be!  Good luck!

Post # 6
846 posts
Busy bee

I agree, make it FI’s job to deal with his mom. And after all, maybe you will actually have more guests than their family and more money in your parent’s pockets if those that you don’t have addresses for don’t end up getting invited! 😉

Post # 7
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would set a date and let your Fiance know that after that date, the invitations will not sent out, and if asked by the guests why they werent invited, I would tell them that neither my Future Mother-In-Law or Fiance could be bothered to find their addresses. Then again, I am not always known for my tact.

Probably better just to turn it all over to him and let the chips fall where they may. But there is no way your mom should plan the Rehearsal Dinner too!

Post # 8
5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband’s mother was terrible about this too.  Luckily I know one of his cousins and she called around for me.  Let your Fiance deal with this, and just make it clear that if you don’t have an address, they’re not getting an invite.

Post # 9
936 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do FMILs think it’s their job to be aggravating?  I had a little bit of the same thing going on.  I asked for it in April, still working on it in August while Fiance is getting daily phone calls from her about when the invites are going out.  I refused to send them out until I had every single one correct.  Make your Fiance deal with it.

Post # 11
24 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

Girl dont I know it. Ou wedding is 2 and half months away and my Future Mother-In-Law has not offered to do 1 thing much less a rehearsal dinner. my family is now asking about this. So I guess this too will fall on my family. Really wrong. However I have decided to just ignore her and do what I have to do and just get it all done. Forget her. But you can bet when I am thanking my family for all their help with the wedding she sure wont hear her name mentioned….

Post # 12
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

But here’s the thing…they are her friends and family.  If she doesnt get you the addresses, they dont get invited.  My vote is drop the invitations off at her house with the names of the people postit noted to each one.  Then it’s her responsibility.  My guess is they’ll be in the mail first thing in the am. 

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