- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
TwilightRarity : I tried to explain exactly that to my FMIL! I told her that just because my fiance and I see each other before the ceremony, does not mean that the moment I wakl down the aisle will be any less special. In fact, by doing a first look, we actualyl egt two really special moments instead of one!
sweatergal007 : The bridesmaids and all (which includes my fiaces sister as well) will be stayign with em at the air bnb the night prior to the wedding and wake up together. I havent figured out all the details yet but I was planning on having the other parents and bridal party come later in the early afternono sort of idea. I defnitely don’t want her there all morning! And on your side note, I totally agree, how woudl they even KNOW if you did one or not?!
annabananabee : I totally agree with you. As a host you should be considerate and as accomodating as possible to your guests. I also agree a first look has nothing to do with guests or anyone else!
honeybee1999 : Right? I feel like it would make it so uncomfortable and I wouldnt get an authentic feel or look to it at all!
TELL ME YOUR SECRETS AND LEND ME YOUR STRENGTH! (hehe)
While I definitely agreed with you initially, once I posted and heard from a bunch of Bee’s it changed my mind. I now think of it this way. If we did not do a first look, we get that one special moment where he see’s be walkign down the aisle the first time in front of all our friends and family. Thats totally great! But if we do a first look, we get that special moment where he see’s me walk down the aisle and gets super emotional because he is about to marry his wifey AND we get a special private moment jsut to two of us on a day that apparently goes by in a whirlwind! I figure, why not get the chance to have 2 speical moments!
I agree. I defintiely need to shut this down so we have some real boundries for the future, especially for when we have kids!
FOR ALL THE BEE’S
Thank you all so much for your insight. I honestly didn’t realize how much my Future Mother-In-Law was overstepping here. I thoguht she was being a little cray cray, but you’ve allr ealyl angered em at her just making everythign about her. The mroe I have thought about it, she is definitely making the wedding so much about her, her family her wants and desires. I am definitely 100% over it and will be shutting this down.
I don’t plan to mention the first look again. If she asks, I’ll politely tell her I’ve got it all covered. If she really gets difficuly about it and demands information I’ll inform her politely but firmly that my fiance and I want to have a special moment just the two of us, since we will literally not have another moment alone for our entire wedding day until we leave the reception.
I feel as though I will eventually have to talk to her about this and let her know my decision. It will be hard to just not speak about it again or not share information, as my fiance’s sister is one of my bridesmaids. I don’t feel confortable making her keep secrets from her mom, so I may have to either just be firm and put my foot down or not discuss it with either of them!
Thanks to you ALL!