(Closed) My FMIL wants to go bridesmaid dress shopping…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s kind of weird too. Seems like she wants to go because she cares more about what her niece is wearing than what you are wearing. Can you tell her that the shop asked you to not bring a huge entourage? If that wouldn’t fly, I guess I’d let her come and maybe wait until she and the neice leave before trying on  your gown.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Make your appointments at two different times- straddling lunch.  For example- have a 10:30- show your dress to whom you want it to be seen- take them for a snack and meet your Future Mother-In-Law and whomever at 12:30 with whoever wants to come back with you. If it comes up, say that you had to schedule it that way (which you did). I agree that she doesn’t need to see your dress now.  It’s a done deal and only a critique can come out of it. Good luck.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

If she just wants to know what colour and how formal her dress should be, seems like the shortest route would be to send her a picture of what you choose after the fact. 

I might offer that up, as a way “not to waste her entire day looking at dresses you may not choose, but will definitely send her a picture of the final choice”.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you play it off like you want it to be a surprise and that’s why you won’t show her your dress?  That could work!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My feelings are this. It’s your wedding. .   you call the shots.  If you don’t want her to see the gowns, then tell her politely but be firm. I don’t understand why she needs to go with you to see the bridesmaids dresses, unless she is trying to sneak a peak at your gown, see how much you paid, and to throw in some criticism. If she has to tag along, I would call the bridal salon where you bought your gown ahead of time, and  give them a heads up. I am sure they will work with you in keeping your gown a secret. This is supposed to be a fun time for you, you don’t need the stress. Stay strong, have fun, and don’t take any crap from anyone:)

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would probably just say that you want to keep your dress a surprise.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you’re being a little overdramatic. You should be glad she is taking an interest in the wedding. Let her go see the bridesmaid dresses, keep in mind you have final say, and don’t let her see yours if you don’t want to.

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it is best to be honest…kindly. If you would rather not have Future Mother-In-Law see it (which it sounds like in this case that is understandable) then just tell her that you would prefer it to be a surprise and show it to the other gals at a different time. (Easier said than done, I know…)

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

get there ahead of time & tell who ever is there that you dont want the party showing up today to see your dress bc u want it to be a surprise so if they ask tell them that they dont carry it??

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