(Closed) My FMIL’s dress is HORRIBLE! What can I do?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Personally, it’s not my favorite either.  However, I would be cautious with this situation.  I think if you tell her you don’t like the dress, or try to tell her what to wear, it will cause hurt feelings and tension…something I wouldn’t want with the Future Mother-In-Law.  The dress really could be worse, although again I’m not a fan either.  But maybe she still plans to lose some weight so it’s not skin tight (motivation!), and if many others told her she looks great and you tell her otherwise then I think she will believe you are the “bad guy.”  I would just let it go.  I know, not the response you want to hear, but it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a reflection of her, and to me some things are really just better left unsaid. 

Post # 4
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Yeah, I don’t like it either, but I don’t think you can say anything… You might be able to suggest bringing a more comfortable dress for the reception but that’s about it. It would also be nice if she wore spanx underneath, but I don’t know how you could possibly bring that up. I’m going to agree with @MadTownGirl

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m not a fan but I really don’t think it’s horrible. Horrible is wearing bright red when everybody else is in neutral tones so she stands out in photos more than the bride lol. 

Post # 6
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly I don’t think the dress is even all that figure flattering, but I don’t think I would say anything. If I did, I would probably mention something to my Fiance about it and see what his feelings are.

Post # 7
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Unless the Future Mother-In-Law specifically asks for advice, I think the best thing to say, is nothing.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not a fan either but it could be worse and I have seen worse at weddings.  At least her boobs aren’t falling out of the dress.  I would let it go.  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Not a fan either but agree with @madtowngirl

Post # 11
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Give her a pretty and elegant cover up – a capelet or shawl – as a gift before the wedding for being such an AWESOME mother in law… and hope that she’ll decide to wear it 😉

 

Otherwise, there’s not much else you can do but remember that if she looks bad, it reflects only on her, not on you!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Is there any way you could accidentally on purpose spill something on it or have a dog/cat otherwise ruin it before the wedding? But with still enough time to get her a new one? That she buys while you guys are shopping together?  Lol, but seriously, umm, Idk what I’d do in your sit. Good luck.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It actualy doesn’tlook bad on her.  Would i wear it to a wedding? No, but unless you really want to piss off your fmil, Iwouldn’t say anything. It could be worse, There are threads on here with dresses that make you go wtf? 

Post # 14
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It could have been this:         😉

(which, no joke, swear on my life, popped up when I googled “mother of the bride dresses” a few months ago)

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

i think its that bad, however i do agree with being more young “age appropriate” but i wouldnt say its something worth getting hurt feelings over.

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