Post # 1
My friend just moved to England with her new husband (a Brit) and they are now pregnant. He has a VERY small family, and I guess in ol’ Anglo Land, baby showers are a new thing. She wants one, but… she has no friends over there right now, so she says it’d just be her, her Mother-In-Law, and her sister in-law.
She has lots of friends and family over here, and surely we’d send her presents, but… how would that go? Is there such thing as a virtual baby shower? I’m not sure how to go about helping her out.
Post # 2
I recently participated in a virtual baby shower. The host sent an evite with the registry information, the time, and asked for everyone’s Skype name.
They called everyone and we we had a group chat where we could see and hear everyone and watch my friend open gifts and show us the nursery.
time zones were all over the place, but it was sweet.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
I’m not sure about the babyshower – it could definitely work but you’ll just need to be super planned and coordinated!
I know from doing video conferences at work it gets kinda wonky trying to follow a conversation with so many people, but even if you do it for a few minutes so she can see all of your faces that would be nice.
I’d suggest that she make a registry off Amazon because it’s easily accessible for people around the world, and then they can have the gifts shipped to her house in England.
Post # 4
it’s very thoughtful of you but as someone who didn’t get one because everyone lived too far away: she’ll live. Send her a present as you would have otherwise. Chat with her about how things are going. Just be a friend like always. That is far more important. She can get along without the shower. She isn’t alone and it’s not the cultural norm there. All those other women manage and so will she.
IMO, virtual showers sound as horrid as virtual MLM parties. Snore. You don’t even get to stuff your face!
Post # 5
It’s bad enough having a party for the sole reason of being showered in gifts.
It’s incredibly rude to just send a list to people & ask them for gifts. She’s not even throwing a party!
If people want to send her something they will. You don’t ask!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
Usu ally a friend throws a shower. I think a Skype shower might help her loneliness if you throw it. But gifts need to get there first. I suggest group shipping them. Insure the box. Everyone chip in on shipping.
If she can fly home, then that’s even better.
Post # 7
I don’t think a baby shower is one of those must have events. Maybe I’m biased because honestly I’d prefer not to even have one but having a virtual one is weird and forcing it imo
Post # 8
We moved for my husband’s job to an area where we didn’t know anyone when I was about 7 weeks pregnant. Aside from a small shower thrown by DH’s office, we won’t have a shower.
I was pretty sad about this. I realized it wasn’t so much the shower itself that I wanted, though. It was my loving community of female friends and relatives – the ladies who would be hosting and attending a shower if we were living close to home. So I understand how your friend feels, I think.
Instead of trying to organize a virtual shower, maybe you could help arrange regular phone or Skype “dates” between the mom to be and the girlfriends she’s missing. And if people want to send her gifts, they will.
Post # 9
Yep showers are new here and most women don’t have them.
She can do a list if she’d like gifts, or fly home for a visit and have an early one.
But TBH the best thing your friend can do is sign up for an NCT class. They are birth prep classes but the main thing anyone gets out of it is a group of friends having babies at the same time who live locally. Lots of support and people to go for coffee with during and after mat leave. I’m still in touch with my group (2 years on) and a few of us are into second babies now too.
Post # 10
my friends are all going to pregnancy yoga/Pilates as well! Seems to be all the rage, and same idea – great place to bond with other girls in same position
Post # 11
For first babies a big thing is finding your mates for maternity leave. A year is a long time and depending one where you live you might not know anyone else in the same situation. We live in London suburbs and I didn’t know any other mums until I did NCT. butternutter :
Post # 12
Goodness OP from your title l thought she was literally alone and abandoned in a desert or something.
England is not some sort of wasteland you know, and l think your friend will make friends and manage very nicely if she goes to ante natal yoga etc/groups. I would just send normal presents and maybe Skype etc
Post # 13
Yeah – I was trying to ignore that implication in the title … England is not the back of beyond (says the pregnant Brit) elderbee :
Post # 14
Just do a cute Skype date and arrange to have balloons and a few prezzies and maybe cupcakes delivered on the day of.
Post # 15
My cousin was recently stationed in Japan and we did a skype shower. But we all got together in the US in a room and had the traditional shower. She opened presents that she had recieved and her sister opened some in the room that were not shipped there yet and then she boxed them all up and shipped them. It was actually really nice!