My Friend Abroad – Overseas, Pregnant, Alone… no baby shower?

posted 9 months ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I’d gladly trade a baby shower for living somewhere with decent maternity leave.

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

Dear lord, a virtual/skype shower sounds horrible. What new levels of greed have we sunk to, goodness.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

st0dad :  I think it’s sweet that you want to arrange something thoughtful for your friend who has recently relocated across the world and has not yet made any friends yet. Could you coordinate with your friends and her family who are where you are and maybe just arrange some gifts to be sent to her? I wouldn’t try and plan a virtual party, I don’t even like attending actual baby showers and a virtual one just sounds complicated. I’d much rather prefer to send a gift and a nice card.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

I had a virtual baby shower and a virtual wedding shower (in addition to in-person showers for both). The virtual part was because my parents still live in the town where I grew up but I live on the other side of the country. So, my mom, her friends, my former teachers, etc. all get together and have brunch and cocktails, then they Facetime me. Everyone goes around the room and says Hi to me while I’m sitting on my couch. Then they sent me a big envelope full of cards. It was really sweet. I think they had a blast. lol.

 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 

rockclimberbride :  it’s pretty sad we think that’s something to be proud of. UK has 12 MONTHS of maternity leave and almost all of that is paid. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I’ve been to two baby showers in the UK (I’m a Brit) and I’m just not a fan. No one is missing out here. The mum to be can go for a spa day or lunch with the close family. Anyone who wants to send gifts can do so when the baby arrives. I much prefer visiting when the parents are ready to have guests and giving a gift them then.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

 

carolinabelle :  I get statutory mat eave but still better than the US.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

st0dad :  If she’s in Cumbria go visit! The Lake District is beautiful. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Cumbria is beautiful – but seriously get her involved in NCT. She’ll meet loads of local mums that wayst0dad :  

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yep – plus we still earn our paid annual leave of at least 25 days plus 8 public holidays. Just started my mat leave with 2 weeks paid holiday rockclimberbride :  

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I don’t know anything about baby showers (and I find them weird) but I can tell you what my friends did for my husband when we where living in Germany (he’s American) My girls threw me a bachelorette party and everyone agreed that my husband need a stag party as well and so my friends boyfriends made it happens. They got together and did it for him. For someone they barely knew but felt he shouldn’t miss out. He had two friends in Germany that came but it was all organized by my girl friends guys. And they had a blast. My husband (then fiancé of course) was almost in tears when he arrived at my friends place and all the guys where there to take him for a whole day of madness. Isn’t that an option? Her husband must have friends with girlfriends/wives? 

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