My friend got proposed…..AT MY WEDDING!!!!!!!

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Would you be upset or not?
    Yes, it's my day and they have 364 other days to propose : (466 votes)
    90 %
    No, it didn't take away from the wedding and they are my friends : (51 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 135
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    1979 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    MelissaandKyle :  LOL, ive never heard of someone announcing a pregnancy at a wedding, but i would die of laughter if she actually did. 

    Post # 137
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    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    0queenbee0 :  I’m feeling petty. What’s your videographers social media handle? Would love to drop a comment on the classiness of this unique and romantic proposal. 😉

    Post # 138
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    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

     I have heard of proposals at weddings before, and think they are fine as long as the bride and groom are aware of and are OK with it well in advance. The fact that he didn’t clear this with you ahead of time is f**king ridiculous, and I’d be pissed too.

    Post # 139
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    94 posts
    Worker bee

    Oh OP! I’m so sorry!! I HATE hearing these stories. It makes me so angry on behalf of the poor bride and groom who invested so much time and money in their special day only to have it ruined by narcissistic idiots like these two. 

    These two sound like self-absorded and inconsiderate individuals. They deserve each other. I would have given her the benefit of the doubt at first because she might not have known (MIGHT), but the fact that she is playing the victim and completely ignoring your feelings shows her true colors. She isn’t at all apologetic. Don’t waste your time on her anymore. Tell her how you feel one more time and then leave at that.

    I really don’t know why anybody thinks proposing at someone else’s wedding is a great idea. It doesn’t make sense, given the fact that he proposed in front of someone else’s family and friends, and they didn’t have their own special moment. Who would ever WANT a proposal like this?

    I agree with PPs…go to their wedding and steal their thunder somehow. But I’m petty so that’s just me. foot-in-mouth

    Post # 140
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    1979 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    0queenbee0 :   I think its worse that they are now ignoring you and used your wedding for an engagement and are gloating about it. id confront her directly in person. I know it sounds petty but she at least owes you some form of an explanation or apology about the whole situation. If they thought you guys were close enough friends to propose at your wedding, then your close enough friends to show up at her doorstep…. 

    If she or he is not willing to somewhat apologize at that point, then I’d cut them out of your life. 

    Post # 141
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    9606 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    anothernewbee16 :  announce your pregnancy anyway, whether you’re pregnant or not.  Just to make their day that much more special.

    Post # 142
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    9606 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    also, after reading through the thread and your updates.  OP: let this friend go; she’s already let you go.

    Post # 143
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    20 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - None

    I would not be impressed.   If you plan it correctly you can announce that you’re pregnant  at their wedding reception.

    smile

    Post # 144
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I may be petty but I would also send them a bill for your videographer, you paid them to capture your wedding, not your friends engagement. The fact that your videographer sent them that footage when you were the one that paid them would bother me, especially on top of everything else

    Post # 145
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    so now you paid for their engagment party (ie: your reception), their stage and mics, and their proposal videographer?! Iʻm still standing by legally serving them the bills.

    Post # 146
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    4881 posts
    Honey bee

    Duude wtf with your videographer?! Those aren’t cheap. That would piss me off. Are your friends from Mars? NOONE else said wtf? Lame. They basically used your wedding as am engagement party. F that. 

    Post # 148
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    6530 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    danakxox :  I agree… what the heck is the videographer doing giving them that footage for free when she was hired for the wedding?  I’d have a real bone to pick with her at this point as well and would be highly inclined to send dear fiance a bill for all the money I spent on his engagement celebration.  What pricks (both fiance and fiancee).

    Post # 149
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I’m sorry but if you there is now a video and your not showing us, I think this is probably a troll posts now. No one can be that stupid and videographers would know how inappropriate it would be for someone to propose at someone’s else’s wedding. I’m inclined to think this is a troll post if you aren’t willing to show us the video of them purposing. 

    Post # 150
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    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    To not even ask you FIRST?!?! Dang, I would be beyond livid. So disrespectful. Man I would want revenge so bad and I would want to drop them as friends. So sorry, this is an awful story.

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