My friend got proposed…..AT MY WEDDING!!!!!!!

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Would you be upset or not?
    Yes, it's my day and they have 364 other days to propose : (466 votes)
    90 %
    No, it didn't take away from the wedding and they are my friends : (51 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 106
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    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    It’s one thing to ask your permission before hand. But what he did was very disrespect. Sorry bee. 

    Post # 107
    Member
    530 posts
    Busy bee

    0queenbee0 :  LOL. Then I really do think one of them read this thread. It’s been on the first page all day.

    Good!

    Post # 108
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    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    0queenbee0 :  she is afraid now that you will do to her what she did to you,  steal her thunder.  I don’t know why you continue to be nice/apologetic to her.   she sounds like a bully. I would email this thread link and tell her off and let the rest of our common friends know why……

    Post # 109
    Member
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    0queenbee0 :  yes. If you go to their wedding, steal the mic and announce you’re pregnant. And then tell us all how it went! 

    Post # 110
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I had to comment because this story has infuriated me! Girl, if it were me I would have taken off my wedding dress, hanged it up and then punched that guy in the face! How utterly inappropriate! I would definitely send them the bill of the reception since they think it was all about them! Pathetic! What selfish, inconsiderate and ignorant people. I would not associate myself with such inane simpletons. They’re not worth your time or energy. 

    Post # 111
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    215 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel it is inappropriate. I also feel your friend Maggie (who probably had no clue) should of apologized to you for taking away from your day. If this was the boyfriends plan all along; he should of asked you if you would be okay with it first and if you said No (which you would totally be allowed to do) then poop for him, he would need to choose another day. 

    And if you think about it… its kind of weird because I assume a good number of people at your wedding were yours and your husbands family… so she got engaged in front of random strangers where the purpose of the event was to celebrate someone important to the random strangers.

     

    ETA: Just read your updates… You told her why you were upset and she didn’t understand. She seems very selfish and I wouldn’t feel bad about her giving you the silent treatment. Normal people would apologize when they realize they hurt their friend. You did everything you could and the ball is in her court so to speak. 

    Post # 112
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    164 posts
    Blushing bee

    0queenbee0 :  Really low class in my opinion. It was your day and they tried to steal the spotlight. It is more of the guys fault than the girls though.

    Post # 113
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    12316 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    At this point the clueless mic grabbing proposal is the least of it. Some people really are incredibly clueless, if well intentioned.  But to be so arrogant and unapologetic after realizing you were upset, without once stopping to consider if they might have been in the wrong? That does not speak well to their character. 

    As for how H handled this, expressing hurt or disappointment and leaving it at that would have been best.  H’s name calling obviously did escalate the situation. When ignorant and insecure people are put on the defensive they will rarely own up to mistakes. I think H absolutely did the right thing by being the bigger person and apologizing for that. He didn’t stoop to their level. 

    Post # 114
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    2792 posts
    Sugar bee

    0queenbee0 :  Don’t say anything further and send her a link to this thread….90% don’t see her point of view, enough said. 

    Post # 115
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    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I’d announce my “pregnancy” at her rehearsal dinner, or bachelorette. Still gets the point across, and you get the opportunity to be the (slightly) bigger person, look Maggie in the eyes and say, “see didn’t that suck??”

    Post # 116
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    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Wtf to all of this…

    At this point it sounds like Maggie is in too deep, and even if she feels like her boyfriend was in the wrong, she can’t turn back now. I completely agree with everyone who said you should respond to the group message with what emeraldbee said. It sounds like they’re pushing you out anyway, so what’s the harm?

    Post # 117
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    5035 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Try your best not to allow this to tarnish the significance and memories from your wedding day.  If I were you I would 100% be done with this couple with no plans of attending their wedding.  What was done was inconsiderate, thoughtless and selfish.  They should be apologetic.

    Post # 118
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    10034 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Don’t throw this bitch no bachelorette! She doesn’t deserve it!

    ETA: I hope you’re reading this, MAGGIE!

    Post # 120
    Member
    242 posts
    Helper bee

    Super low class. I know someone who got engaged at an engagement party and thought that was tacky but this is even worse.

     

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