(Closed) My friend is not talking to me now that I am pregnant

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrskisstobe: Is she a lot father along then you? Do you have the same group of friends?

Was it much easier for you to get pregnant? She may just be jealous of the whole situation. And if she was pregnant “first” she may feel like she had a right to tell people first.

Hopefully things will blow over soon.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You did nothing wrong, she is being childish, maybe its the hormones. And she is going to be pretty upset when she goes to the OB and sees all the other pregnant ladies who are “stealing her thunder.”

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I know a lot of people would wait to be in the “safety zone” i.e 3 months before telling people.  I’m not sure how far along you are, but she may think you’re being premature telling people…even though your excited, and you should be!!

Try not to take it personally, everyone handles things differenly and there is no right way.

Congratulations to you and FI!!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think she’s being childish at all and I think you need to give her the space she requested or else you’re being rude. She’s not “mad that you are pregnant”, but you inadvertently stole her thunder and I would be upset too to have it continuously rubbed in my face.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just ignore the situation and let her cool down. You should tell people when you’re ready to, not when your friend is ready for you to. And just b/c you’re pregnant does not make her pregnancy any less special.

I was jealous of people announcing their pregnancy before me when I was pregnant, but I would have never actually gotten mad at them. That’s just silly.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

The hormones are a bitch. Literally. Things that a rational person wouldn’t even think twice about seem like world breaking news. Give her a break. Let her be sappy and bitchy because I have days/weeks like that too. Pregnancy has turned me into a completely different person and for a lot of people who haven’t been through it it seems completely ridiculous (as it is).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you need to tell her that people get pregnant all the time, and that she is her own person and will therefore have her own moment. She doesn’t have “dibs” on announcement days. God, she sounds like such a pain in the ass (harsh, but jeeze, what a selfish think to say to you!)

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mrskisstobe: Yes, friends are supposed to be. Think of how she must feel. You didn’t even have to try! She struggled for a year and when she finally gets her moment, someone beats her to it. I think you’re being insensitive.

 

ETA: If she asked you to give her time to get over the hurt feelings and you’re constantly trying to talk to her, you’re going to push her further away. You’re not respecting her wishes. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can see how she might feel like you jumped in and “stole her thunder”, especially since you were one of the only people to know her situation. I am sure it will pass quickly, but I would give her space until then.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mrskisstobe: I didn’t say you weren’t allowed to say anything, but if you knew how hard they were trying, why would you not be a little more sensitive to her feelings? Knowing how hard they tried, why would you be judging her now for being upset?

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