Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
As the title states, one of my longest friends lost her husband yesterday. I’ve just been trying to wrap my mind around it all, but I can’t put myself in her shoes. I’ve lost all of my family and my husband is my world, so I can’t imagine becoming a widow at this early age.
Me and her husband share a birthday and we’d be 25 in April. They got married last June after almost 9 years together. I just keep thinking about how they didn’t even get to celebrate their anniversary and how this is not the life they planned. It’s so crazy to even think about. This should not be happening.
I keep thinking about how me and my boyfriend at the time were standing in the locker room hallway before a football game and she ran in the door screaming that Dylan had just asked her to be his girlfriend. That would’ve been 10 years ago in August. She had never liked anyone else and they had been through so much over the last 10 years. Our husbands have the same name and we always joked we were going to have a big double wedding with our Dylans.
They haven’t come straight out and said what happened, but of course word is starting to spread in our small hometown. He apparently had a seizure in his sleep and passed away. My friend is a nurse and works nightshift and I’ve heard she came home from work and found him. I just can’t imagine. I’m at a complete loss of words. My heart breaks for his mom as well because he was an only child and she was a single mom.
This just hits so close to home and you’d never think someone who’s in the same position of life as you are would be dealing with this. We’re newlyweds, this is supposed to be the happiest time of our life. I’ve been holding my DH super close since I found out. I was venting lastnight about the stress we’re going through with his career and a possibly out of state move and then I just saw him working out and had to stop and tell myself that I still have my husband here and we’re lucky to be able to be stressing about our future. It just puts so much into perspective.
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
I’m so, so sorry to hear that. My heart breaks for your friend.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
That’s so sad..I’m so sorry for your friend.
I had a coworker that passed away last week from cancer. Fiance and I were arguing about stupid wedding things like table numbers. TABLE NUMBERS. Unfortunately, tragedies can put things into perspective.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
That is horrifying!
Give your friend a hug for me 🙁
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
I’m so very sorry. Something similar happened to a former boss’s young wife. She was a similar age. Hugs if you want them.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I am so very sorry for your friend’s loss, and for your loss as well. She is very lucky to have a close friend like you to help support her through this terrible time. This underscores why we really have to live everyday to its fullest and not let little things get us down. I hope you all are able to move forward and find peace, even though right now it must seem so hard.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I’m so sorry to hear that. Prayers for your friend and you. Hugs.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
I am sorry for your friend. I went through the sudden loss of a long term significant other at a very young age as well, and it it really is a place most never think they will be at that age. Sometimes life deals real shitty cards. I had an acquaintance who lost her long term partner, and brand new husband, on their wedding night in one of those “fell asleep and never woke up” sort of incidents. Like I said, sometimes life deals shitty cards.
Be there for your friend. It is actually good you are cognizant you can’t put yourself IN her shoes, but be there as she figures out how to walk in them herself. It will take time.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
That is so sad, I can’t imagine. ❤️
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
That is truly heartbreaking, I’m very sorry for everyone’s loss.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I am so sorry for your friends loss, and your loss of a friend as well. This breaks my heart for the entire family. Prayers and thoughts for those close to him <3
Post # 12
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Honey bee
Sending you and your friend all my light and love today.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
This is so heartbreaking. My heart goes out to your friend, and to you as well.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Oh my goodness, how heartbreaking! I’m so sorry to hear this.
I have a friend that was widowed very young, as well. My best advice is to just be there for her. Don’t wait for her to ask. Take her food. Sit with her. Listen to her. Let her cry on your shoulder. My friend lived on the other side of the country, so there wasn’t as much that I can do, but just knowing you’re there for her is comforting (from what my friend said).
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
My heart goes out to your friend. The world is not equiped and no one is ever prepared to be a “young” widow. I was widowed at 30 and none of my friends could relate at all.