my friend made ugly wedding invitations

posted 2 years ago in Decor
Post # 2
6526 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Tell her you found something online that’s so cute you couldn’t pass it up. Then stop being so cheap and buy a 1-sheet invitation on vistaprint while they are on sale (all the time). 

Post # 3
1389 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Just tell her thank you, and that you’ve decided on a different style. 🙂 But I will also say that invitations are pretty dang important, so if it’s between what she made and no invitations at all… go with what she made. 

Post # 4
11946 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Yes, just thank her very much and say you’ve decided to do something different. Since you agreed, and I’m assuming that was contingent on your approval, you should offer to pay her for any purchase or outlay of materials. 

If my budget was very tight, I’d handwrite on plain stock. Simple, inexpensive and personal. 

Post # 5
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You kinda actually need invitations if your email having a wedding. You can get them on vista print for so cheap. Less than 30.00. 

Post # 6
2099 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m gonna differ slightly here. I think you need to tell her what you are looking for, and help her fix the ones she made. She likely spent lots of time on these, and i think it’s so rude of you to say sorry, i found them somewhere else. I made my own invitations and they took soooooooooo long. I am also not a “professional” and not even a beginner. I taught myself just to do my invites. So, I would work with her to fix what she has. Pinpoint the things that make it look unprofessional – Font?? Graphics? Etc. If she is trying something really complicated, maybe just simplify the design. But, agreeing to let her do it and changing your mind after she has spent hours on it is kind of a terrible thing to do. Especially since you seem not to care about the invites anyways. 

Post # 7
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Are the invitations actually printed out, or did she just send you a design? Because if it’s just a design, I think you can easily say “I appreciate the work you put into these, but I found something online that I love SO MUCH that I couldn’t pass them up.” If it’s printed, I think that’s a different story, but I don’t think we can make the decision for you. If you hate them, then maybe you should choose something else.

Post # 8
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

littleanchor :  I’m currently in the process of making my invitations (I used to do graphic design as a hobby and eventually a mini, but lucrative, side gig), and it is insane how many details there are (Spacing of the text alone has taken me SO much time), so I agree with your sentiment. OP, your friend likely spent ALOT of time on these. Do you have any way of helping her out to fix them? Maybe you should post photos here and get some feedback…

Post # 12
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016


tiffanycox :  I actually like it.  If you’re not happy with certain things can you just make some suggestions and have her change a few things?

Post # 13
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

tiffanycox :  it’s pretty horrific and looks extremely amateur. 

I agree with one of the PP’s that you should thank her for her time but say that you found some online that you love. And then go find what you’re looking for online.

Looking at this, I can’t imagine she spent THAT much time on them. 

Post # 15
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

tiffanycox :  It’s not bad! It’s definitely not my taste at all, and I can see how it can not be your taste. TBH, I saw plenty of invites like this on minted, wedding paper divas, vistaprint, zazzle, etc. so, it is clearly SOMEONE’s style.

This is totally fixable. If you like certain aspects, you can have her just change what you don’t like. If you don’t like it at all – I’d say A) Tell her it isn’t really your style, and you’d just like to proceed a different direction and purchase your own. B) Tell her it isn’t really your style, show her things you DO like, and see if she can do something more along those lines?

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