Post # 1
So I was planning on buying invitations, however i ran into some problems with groupon, questioned my actual need for invitations, and decided to sue that money on an alternative wedding guest book.
my friend, who will be at my wedding, offered to make me invitations.
Honesty I should have told her that I didnt need them, because I’ve seen her work. She is a beginner, not a professional.
But I stupidly said sure.. She just messaged me her work. Im not going to post it on here, just know that it doesnt look professional.
I can’t tell ehr that i have inviatations already, because i dont. Should I tell her that i decided not to have them. Oh or that I decided i dont want to spend money on printing and mailing? But then she might try to tell me to email them…
I’m normally a bruatlly honest person. Im trying to tone it down on things like this though. Because i know she worked hard, she just needs more practice and maybe better software…
I dont want to tell her that i think think she needs more practice.. im not sure what to tell her though
Post # 2
Tell her you found something online that’s so cute you couldn’t pass it up. Then stop being so cheap and buy a 1-sheet invitation on vistaprint while they are on sale (all the time).
Post # 3
Just tell her thank you, and that you’ve decided on a different style. 🙂 But I will also say that invitations are pretty dang important, so if it’s between what she made and no invitations at all… go with what she made.
Post # 4
Yes, just thank her very much and say you’ve decided to do something different. Since you agreed, and I’m assuming that was contingent on your approval, you should offer to pay her for any purchase or outlay of materials.
If my budget was very tight, I’d handwrite on plain stock. Simple, inexpensive and personal.
Post # 5
You kinda actually need invitations if your email having a wedding. You can get them on vista print for so cheap. Less than 30.00.
Post # 6
I’m gonna differ slightly here. I think you need to tell her what you are looking for, and help her fix the ones she made. She likely spent lots of time on these, and i think it’s so rude of you to say sorry, i found them somewhere else. I made my own invitations and they took soooooooooo long. I am also not a “professional” and not even a beginner. I taught myself just to do my invites. So, I would work with her to fix what she has. Pinpoint the things that make it look unprofessional – Font?? Graphics? Etc. If she is trying something really complicated, maybe just simplify the design. But, agreeing to let her do it and changing your mind after she has spent hours on it is kind of a terrible thing to do. Especially since you seem not to care about the invites anyways.
Post # 7
Are the invitations actually printed out, or did she just send you a design? Because if it’s just a design, I think you can easily say “I appreciate the work you put into these, but I found something online that I love SO MUCH that I couldn’t pass them up.” If it’s printed, I think that’s a different story, but I don’t think we can make the decision for you. If you hate them, then maybe you should choose something else.
Post # 8
littleanchor : I’m currently in the process of making my invitations (I used to do graphic design as a hobby and eventually a mini, but lucrative, side gig), and it is insane how many details there are (Spacing of the text alone has taken me SO much time), so I agree with your sentiment. OP, your friend likely spent ALOT of time on these. Do you have any way of helping her out to fix them? Maybe you should post photos here and get some feedback…
Post # 9
Oh she didn’t print just sent me design
My wedding isn’t big… I wasn’t really sure I even wanted invitations
Maybe I’ll try the nightmare that is Groupon again
Thank you everyone
Post # 10
tiffanycox : Do you have pics of them?
Post # 11
idk maybe its just the hearts which she could remove
Post # 12
tiffanycox : I actually like it. If you’re not happy with certain things can you just make some suggestions and have her change a few things?
Post # 13
tiffanycox : it’s pretty horrific and looks extremely amateur.
I agree with one of the PP’s that you should thank her for her time but say that you found some online that you love. And then go find what you’re looking for online.
Looking at this, I can’t imagine she spent THAT much time on them.
Post # 14
maybe just get rid of hearts and put our names in that space instead.
but again i do feel like something about it is just not professional looking.
I will have to think on this. thank you everyone.
i understand what shes doing. i attempted to make my own
lol but mine also looked unprofessional i didnt even get to the lettering because of it. couldnt even make the jar outline right. guess i could have just deleted the flower and left the background. but im not a professional..
Post # 15
tiffanycox : It’s not bad! It’s definitely not my taste at all, and I can see how it can not be your taste. TBH, I saw plenty of invites like this on minted, wedding paper divas, vistaprint, zazzle, etc. so, it is clearly SOMEONE’s style.
This is totally fixable. If you like certain aspects, you can have her just change what you don’t like. If you don’t like it at all – I’d say A) Tell her it isn’t really your style, and you’d just like to proceed a different direction and purchase your own. B) Tell her it isn’t really your style, show her things you DO like, and see if she can do something more along those lines?