- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Two months ago, my best friend was talking to me about how she’s done with internet dating and that there aren’t any good guys on there. She’s extremely picky. So I told her to look on craigslist, branch out a little bit…it couldn’t ALL be creepy nudey pics..right?
Anyways, we found a guy on there with a geniune ad and a REALLY cute picture. So she contacted him. She talked to him on the phone for a couple of nights, and skyped with him. She mentioned that the picture didn’t really match him on skype, but she was going to wait and see in person.
She sent me a text before she went on her first date with him with his full name and location of where they were going. i assumed she would have googled this guy first. But she hadn’t. I google him and find his mugshot from another state. It was a felony charge for 37 counts of fraud and bail jumping. I immediately texted the picture to her and told her to please be careful. She said it didn’t look like him and that she was having a great time. She called me after the date and was ECSTATIC. She really really liked this guy.
But I asked her to look at the mugshot again. What confirmed it for her was his birthdate and the location of the offense. She called him and he admitted to it. He said he was going to eventually tell her and that it had only resulted in him spending 15 days in jail.
I’m a paralegal, but in the state of VA. These charges were in another state, and the public information that I was reading was extremely hard to decipher. To me, it looks like he spent 5 years in prison. I understand that people make mistakes. But I need to make sure that my friend is informed of his past with 100% honesty.
If it wasn’t 36 counts of FRAUD, I wouldn’t really think about it twice. But after having met him in person, I know for a FACT that his craigslist picture is NOT him. Any ounce of dishonesty is not helping his case with me.
He’s not on Facebook and doesn’t have a driver’s license.
I don’t feel any more comfortable after having met him. My Husband feels the same way, if not more. We’re both really concerned that something is off.
She has been dating him for 2 months now. He asked her to be his girlfriend after 2 weeks and then told her he loved her a week after that. I really want to be happy for her, but I can’t let go of this feeling that something is not right.
Should I tell her my worries? Or keep my mouth shut? She still swears that his picture on craigslist is him but it’s pretty much comparing Ryan Gosling to Andy Dick. (Not saying this guy is unattractive but it’s so obvious it’s silly). Is that even something to be worried about?
Ugh, i just feel awful for feeling this way. Advice please, bees!