(Closed) my friend stole all my ideas, and had my dream wedding !

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How long ago was her wedding? If it was awhile ago, people won’t remember so have the wedding you love!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

your date says you’re already married

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, at this point, how much does it really matter? Are you engaged/ having your wedding soon? It may have been super immature of her to “steal” all your ideas, but think of it this way, now you get to do something else and have more fun planning your actual wedding.’

And if it is any encouragment, my “dream” wedding I had for years before I was actually engaged is nothing like the wedding I am actually planning for real and I absoultly can’t wait for my wedding now. 

I think only you can decided if this is worth ending a friendship over. But personally, especially if it was someone I was previously close to, and unless she stole my groom in addition to details for my dream wedding, I would get over it. 

Additionally, a wedding is one day. Yes, it is an important day but I think sometimes we all (myself included) lose sight of the fact that is just ONE day. Is years of a friendship worth losing over a one day wedding to you? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I could barely read this.

No one notices similarities in weddings like you may think they do. A wedding is usually: girl in white dress, boy in tux. Food. Booze. Maybe dancing.

No one will notice if someone stole someone’s dream centerpiece.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t know if it’s worth ruining a friendship over.  It’s slightly annoying, especially since it sounds like you had some out of the box type things planned, but really, how much overlap in the guest list can there be?  I say go ahead and have the wedding your always wanted.

Or alternately, the wedding that we ended up having, was nothing like what I had “planned” once all the outside influences/requests started rolling in, and I loved what I ended up with too.  On the bright side, you get to plan another wedding!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@jennstar: Uh… four years after the fact… No one but you cares or remembers. Move on with your life. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@jennstar: Again, you are thinking way too far into this. She doesn’t lose sleep or get upset about this anymore, the only person you not getting over this and moving on hurts is you. It makes you sound bitter and petty.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

You’re ranting about something that happened 4 YEARS ago? I’m sorry, but it’s time to get over it and move on with your life.

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