(Closed) My friend wants to bring my Ex to my wedding!

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
179 posts
Blushing bee

I have a shady ex like that. He is friends with one of my friends and one of the first things I asked her when I announced my engagement to my fiance was that she not bring him as a guest to my wedding. Of course, she just laughed about it and said of course not.



Post # 48
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

What. a. jerk. Both of them!

He was begging to go because “he thought it would be sooo funny”? Is he for real? How immature. He’s either still hung up on you or just a complete @ss.

Honestly, I’d tell your coworker– if she wants to come to the wedding, she cannot bring him. Just explain to her how awkward it would be for your Fiance, your family, you, etc. She’s being really insensitive… but hopefully she’ll get it after you talk to her.

Post # 49
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The fact that she even asked for permission to bring him suggests to me that she knows it’s wrong. I’d flat out say NO and offer no room for discussion. I would be livid if any of my FI’s friends wanted to bring an Ex of his or if any of my friends wanted to invite an Ex of mine. (even though any friend wouldn’t even dare date them in the first place)

Post # 50
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve not read any of the other responses really, but if you have a few guests at your wedding, chances are you will barely get much of a chance to say more than ‘hi’ to him? Yes it may be a bit weird, but he’s there as HER date at your wedding. So i’d probably say yes to him coming, but I’d completely understand if you said for him not to…I can see both sides :S

Post # 51
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I didn’t read all the responses but I’d say no.  The fact that you got on this board to asked your question tells me that you prefer him not to go (and you even said that it’d be wrong to be even him there).  It’s your wedding and you get to pick who you want to share the special day with.  There is no need for you to make your coworker “happy”.  I think she knows she’s wrong for wanting to inviting him, that’s why she’d ask you.  Also, to have him at the wedding so he’d think that it’d be “funny” is not a good reason at all for attending your wedding.  That means he plans on going there as your ex, not as your coworkers date (guest).  (Show some respect, please!!)  Also, unless your Fiance is 100% ok with it, I don’t think it’s considerate of you to invite him, either. 

It’s just so unnecessary and I don’t like his attitude.  Also, if he has a “special place in your heart”, that’s more of a reason not to have him there.  It should be a day for you and your Fiance, and should not be shared/cheapened by having someone that was special there.  I don’t know.. I would want my Fiance to be the one and only there on our most special day and that’s what I’d personally do.


Post # 52
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Have you talked to your Fiance about it? If so, what does he think?  If you’re on the fence…and your Fiance says it makes him feel uncomfortable….then I would say you have your decision and the perfect reason to tell your friend no!  Honestly though, the most important thing is that YOU feel comfortable on YOUR wedding day!  I think it’s pretty ballsy of your friend to even ask to bring him!!  Good luck girl!

Post # 53
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

does your friend have a loose screw or a nail missing?

Post # 54
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oay, I probably won’t have popular answer…but sometimes you have to sit back and look from another angle. 

First, you need to think about your feelings towards him.  If it has been 3 years since seeing him last and being with your FH for 6 years….what is the problem?  Talking to your FH would be the best thing to do first and see how he feels about it.  It sounds like this guy is looking for something and odd that he keeps asking her about being invited to your wedding.  She should be a little smarter and call him out on that.  She really should of talked to him and found out his motives before even dreaming of asking you.  Maybe he needs to see you getting married to get over whatever he is feeling.  

I, personally, invited my first love to mine.  He has been a great friend well after the relationship was over and someone I see out in the streets or at Walmart.  We grew up together and was very much part of each others’ lives.  My FH is okay but it is more than obvious how I feel and who I want to be with. 

In the end….remember that it is YOUR day!!  You have no reason to be uncomfortable or worried….if something or someone is going to cause it….well…..then they are not welcome!!

Post # 55
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


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