Post # 1
I have a close circle of friends from high school. One of these friends lives out of the country now (this point will be important, kids) and is flying in for the wedding. Overall, she will be at home for two weeks to enjoy friends, family, and the wedding.
Today, I got an e-mail from her. She wants to know if I’m OK with her leaving the reception at 10:00 p.m. (2 hours early) so that she can go with her sister to this sister’s favorite karaoke bar. Apparently, they have a themed karaoke night once a month and guess what night it’s falling on in August?
Truly, she is the sweetest person. I think, even in this instance, she is showing it by trying please both her sister and me. I love this girl and if this is how it does down, I’ll get over it eventually. But seriously…my once-in-a-lifetime reception doesn’t take precedence over this monthly karaoke night? Granted, she lives out of the country, but it’s not like it’ll never happen again. I would never let her know how much this bothers me and am mulling over how to respond to her e-mail.
And now that you have the story, here’s the kicker:
SHE. LIVES. IN. JAPAN.
LAND OF KARAOKE!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
I would be upset but try to be as nice as possible about it. I would respond to her email by saying:
“I would love to spend as much time as possible with you at my reception and will really miss you if you leave early. However I understand that you have limited time here so I understand if you would like to leave early to spend time with your sister.”
Post # 4
She lives in Japan and wants to leave your wedding a little early to hang out with her sister?
Meh. You know how many people leave weddings after the cake cutting? Like, 75% of the people at my wedding left early. Based on the weddings i’ve been to lately, it seems pretty common.
You probably won’t even notice…..
Post # 5
i agree with above post.. u wont really notice one person leavin early.. n alot of ppl leave early n dnt stay till the very end.. i dont think thats a big deal
Post # 6
Yeah it sounded bad until you said 10…10 is late enough and I guess it’s nice of her to tell you and not just leave.
My FIs brother is missing the entire reception! To be in a community play! He is not an actor. Annoying.
Post # 7
Hmm…as hard as it would be in your shoes, I’d have to say be happy that she’ll make it to the reception, but accept she needs to hang out with her sister. Like you said, she lives out of country. Your reception is a once in a life time event to you, and going out to this karaoke thing may be a once in a very long time thing for her.
As for her leaving early, I highly doubt you’ll get to spend much time with her anyway. At my reception, it was such a whirlwind, that if I didn’t have my guest book to look at, I would have had no idea who showed up. You’re the bride…EVERYONE will want to talk to you and the chance you’ll have all the time to talk to everyone you want is slim. So, there’s no need to have her there to the very end of the reception when you won’t even get to spend a whole lot of time with her.
Post # 8
i think it’s very sweet of her to check with you rather than just taking off. and i agree with others that a majority of people WILL leave before 12am; in fact, people will start leaving around 9:30 even when your wedding’s on a saturday. don’t be bothered by it 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks for the reality check! Yes, I did reply to her and it was a variation of what babyboo recommended (except I may have mentioned I would totally rent a karaoke machine for her if she would stay…ha!) I’m over myself now…vent completed!
Post # 10
I do think it’s a bit strange for her to leave early from a once-in-a-lifetime event for something that’s on once a month and that she could do with her sister next time she’s in town.