Post # 1
My friend makes some lovely beaded jewelry. She is so excited for our wedding and so generous. She want to help with everything and is a bridesmaid!
Which is great … right? She has already told me that she will make my necklace and jewelry for the bridal party (even emailing my mum saying that she will be making her jewelry). I’m not a big jewelry person and will be wearing a v-neck dress. How do I let her know that I (and the bridal party … and my mum especially!) may not wear her jewelry but without throwing the idea completely out the window? I don’t want to hurt her feelings and I also don’t want to be sending mixed signals.
Post # 3
I would just say “thank you for the offer but we’re all set on jewelry.”
Post # 4
I would say, “as a bride, I feel uncomfortable about giving people jewelry with the implication that they have to wear it for the wedding. I prefer to let people choose their own. Thank you, your offer is very generous and I would love to see what you make, I just don’t want your feelings to be hurt if people have other ideas about what jewelry they want to wear.”
Post # 5
I would let her make the jewelry, but be clear that you are not going to expect people to choose to wear it. Like the PP above said, say that you are allowing everyone to choose their own jewelry for the day of the wedding. Perhaps you can have her hand-made jewelry as part of the presents you gift to the bridal party so long as she understands it might not be worn that day.
Post # 7
I would keep it really simple and just say that you’d like the BMs to pick out jewelry that suits their personality.
Post # 8
That’s great. Thanks. She does make cool jewelry and it might help bring all the BMs looks together (as they are choosing their own dress)… but some people are just not into beaded jewelry. I like your advise MSMIndle… I thin that will work best with my friend as she loves gifting jewelry (so she will still be able to gift but we wont necessary need to wear it at the wedding).
Thanks so much!