(Closed) My friends dilemma – 2 groomsmen and 1 bridemaid

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have never, ever heard of a married woman dancing with an unmarried man at a wedding (as an obligation) as an issue. It’s two hours. Both parties can deal with it. I am sure if she asked her friends, she would see how much of a non-issue this really is.

And in the long run, does she really want someone she isn’t close to standing up next to her on one of the most important days of her life? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Whoops double post.

Post # 5
Bee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I don’t think it’s an issue either. I have 5 single bridesmaids and one that is engaged, and my Fiance has 2 married groomsmen, both of whom are matched up with a single bridesmaid. It’s not like you pair them up with the intention of them falling in love, you know! I would just tell her that it really is a non issue and it happens all the time!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I suggest you change your title – I hope you mean groomsMEN not 2 grooms….that’s a whole ‘nother kettle of fish…

She should ask her friends if they are bothered, not assumed, but I can’t imagine that they would be.  (Nor do they need to do more than walk back together, certainly not dance together.)  My bridesmaids are all married – one to my brother-in-law (my sister, MOH), another to my brother (my sister), and the third is my cousin.  Only one groomsman is married (although the best man is engaged).  Not an issue.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have 6 groomsmen and 6 bridesmaids…some are married, some are single…none of them are SOs for each other. We have some single men with married women and single women with married men. We also have married paired with married. I don’t think it really matters, as long as you’re not forcing them to be together the whole night. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have 2 thoughts: 

1) there doesn’t need to be an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. It’s fine if there are 2 guys and 1 gal, or whatever.

2) But, if she wants the #s to be even, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with haveing married women as BMs paired with unmarried men. Everyone understands it’s just for the event. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with PP, she should have the people that she wants to be near her and are going to be supportive on her wedding day, and not worry about relationship status.  

Out of my bridal party I have one single (but in a relationship) Bridesmaid or Best Man, on married Bridesmaid or Best Man and my 2 groomsmen have been in a commited relationship with eachother for about 8 or so years…  none of our friends really care, they just want to be there to support us.  

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