Post # 1
Ok, I think this was just wrong and this is just my personal opinion. I recently went to my friends wedding. It was absolutely beautiful and everything was going great. My friend has been with her fiance for 4 years and the love they have for eachother is just amazing! Well during the reception, right after their first dance, her sisters bf went up and got the mic from the DJ. Duting this time, my friend and her new hisband were going around greeting the guests. We all thought he was going to say a toast or something. Boy were we wrong. He proceeded to read this poem he had written about his girlfriend (her sister) and then asked her to come to the dance floor. He proposed to her right in the middle of the dance floor and stated this was a great time to do it because “everyone was in the same place”. So then everybody got up and came to congratulate them and the DJ played a slow song so they could dance to it. In the meantime, my friend and her husband just stood there because all the guests were over on the dance floor congratulating her sister. I looked over and saw my friend tear up (not because she was happy but because she was upset). The rest of the night everyone was talking about how her sister was getting married and how exciting it was. To make it worse, her sister, new fiance, and all her friends left the wedding 2 hours early (before the cake was cut) to go because she was “excited to start looking up wedding stuff online” and couldnt wait. I thought this was wrong and to be hoenst, if someone proposed to someone else at my wedding, I would be upset. What is everyone else’s feelings on this?
Post # 3
I think how they did it was super bad form, but honestly, it wouldn’t bug me if 1) I knew in advance and 2) they didn’t leave!
FI’s brother just proposed, and I am sure they will get a good amount of attention as a result at my wedding, but I’m really happy for them. Part of it, though, is that I’m excited to have her for a sister, I don’t have a sister.
Post # 4
bad bad form! right before the first dance… booo to that. I can totally understand the bride’s dissapointment.
Post # 5
I think it’s a bit rude…
We announced to my fiance’s extended family the day of one of his cousin’s bridal shower. But we waited until AFTER the shower and the bride-to-be had left. The same day was also another cousin’s birthday party, we made our announcement in between the two (during the tear-down of the bridal shower and the set-up of the birthday party). I didn’t even wear my ring until after the shower was over and she had left because I didn’t want to steal her thunder.
Post # 6
I would definitely be upset. There is a right and a wrong time for everything and they definitely didn’t try to be discreet or tactful about it. I would probably feel bad about being upset and wouldn’t tell anyone.
Post # 7
I don’t have a problem with anyone proposing to someone else at the reception, as long as it kept quiet between the couple in question. But making an announcement to everyone in attendance is rude.
Post # 8
Although I think the bf should have waited til after first dance/toasts etc, I would be happy if somebody *close to me* got engaged at my wedding. I’ve been at a wedding where this happened later in the evening and it was really nice, actually.
That said – if my own sister left my wedding early to look anything up online, I think it would literally take me years (and lots of begging on her part) to forgive her. That’s just insane!
Post # 9
Straight up BULLSH*T and beyond rude, not to mention TACKY. Sorry……but that is my honest to god reaction.
Post # 10
I would be upset, especially about the way they did it. Would I be happy if my sister was proposed to and excited about it? Absolutely! But there is a time and a place for everything. And to leave early? Now THAT is the worst part. “Sorry,sis! You’re cool and all, and I sure am glad you got married today, but I have to get home to the internet!” Can she not control her excitement for two hours? Maybe she thought all of the world’s wedding sites would implode if she didn’t get to the ASAP.
Post # 11
Wow. My fiance proposed the day before two of our friends were getting married. We kept it really quiet during the ceremony and reception, and at the very end of the night, when my fiance was dancing with the bride, he told her. She came barreling over to me, asking to see the ring – she was thrilled. But we made every effort to not at all take the attention away from her. Planning a wedding is a lot of work, and I think the people who have spent the last year (or so) putting the day together deserve to have their moment.
Post # 12
There are three parts I can’t believe:
- That he did this in the middle of what is supposed to be the Newlyweds’ moment.
- That the DJ gave THEM the spotlight.
- That she was so insensitive to her sister’s feelings that she not only didn’t try to refocus the attentions back onto the bride, she actually stopped celebrating her sister’s wedding to go look wedding things up. On an internet that isn’t going anywhere.
If it were me I would shit a brick.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy
I would not be happy. The wedding should be about the bride and groom (or bride & bride, etc).
Post # 14
personally i would NOT be paying that DJ if he allowed that to happen without my consent THEN prolonged it by having them have a little dance.
sorry it might be vain but after all the planning i have done for this damn wedding, if someone did that to me, i would stab them in the heart with a spoon – cuz it will hurt more.
Post # 15
Well, a quiet proposal would be one thing, and maybe even to be expected with all the warm fuzzy wedding feelings floating around … but THIS was simply unacceptable on every level. To totally steal the focus from the newly married couple and then leave early! That is completely selfish and thoughtless. Make sure to tell your friend there’s a lot of bees angry on her behalf!
Post # 16
I would be a little upset if someone proposed at my wedding. However, if someone did that at my wedding I would be really hurt and angry. It was very selfish on many levels.