(Closed) My friends sister got proposed to at HER wedding!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be upset if someone got proposed to at your wedding?
    ABSOLUTELY! This is MY day! : (287 votes)
    85 %
    No, I understand it was because everyone was there : (50 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 32
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    835 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    that is terrible….like some of the ladies said, maybe announcing it at the very very end of the wedding or a few days before the weedding, but using it as the proposal?? and not to mention when he did it?? i would be upset and im a very easy going person. also, i dont know if im being out of line here, but im a little blown that he used someone else’s hardwork and romantic atmosphere to do this. he sure got out of planning a night with his own money and time….. i think it was horrible timing. i would hope the sis had no idea though, and possibly was a bit, astounded as well…maybe it was just a man-mistake. hopefully…..

    Post # 33
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    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    One of my fiance’s friends asked me if he could propose to his gf at my wedding.. Absolutely NOT! I’m not planning our special day to make a great backdrop for someone else’s proposal.. I didn’t think anyone would do such a thing!

    Post # 34
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    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Why do some people think they need to have all their family see their proposal? And why don’t those people propose at a holiday dinner?

    Post # 35
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    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Wrong, just plain Wrong.  There is no excuse for such bad behavior.  I can’t believe the parents didn’t intervene.

    Post # 36
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    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that proposing at someone else’s wedding is in poor taste anyway, but the way he did it makes it even worse – making a huge scene, having a special dance, and leaving early…thats terrible.

    Post # 37
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    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i personally would have been okay, but can definately understand her feelings being hurt. and the part about her leaving early is complete bullshit!

    Post # 38
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Wrong, wrong, wrong.  Unless you get prior approval from the bride & groom, it is grotesquely rude to hijack a celebration that somebody else has spent months or years planning and saving up for.  Seriously.  Want to do it in front of everybody?  Fine, plan and pay for your own party and put some effort into making your own special moment rather than stealing somebody else’s.

    And I totally agree with whoever said they hope your friend has a pregnancy to announce at her sister’s wedding.

    Post # 39
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    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It would only be appropriate if the bride and groom knew about it first and were ok with it.  It’s their day and I think a wedding proposal is rude.  Nobody likes a thunder stealer.

    Post # 40
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    2857 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    This same topic came up last month, I think. It wouldn’t bother me. It’s not just MY day, it’s a day for all of our friends and family to celebrate with us. If our wedding inspires another proposal, I think that’s kind of awesome.

    But I agree that the way they went about it was pretty tacky.

    Post # 41
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    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Nah, it wouldn’t bother me.  As long as they didn’t do it before the ceremony.  At the reception? No biggie.  I would be a little upset if they left early to “start looking at wedding stuff” though. 

    Post # 42
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    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would be livid …. that is just beyond rude!!  In my mind, it is an absolute no-no to propose at someone else’s wedding (pre-ceremony or at the reception).  The is the bride and groom’s day and they get (and deserve) about 6 hours where the focus is on them and their love for each other.  To try to hyjak that is just unbelieveable!

    Post # 44
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    7776 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Oh hell yeah, i’d be pissed and that guy would get his ears blistered off. You know, I get ONE DAY and I would be pissed if someone stole my thunder. No you didn’t, jerk. Not today.

    Post # 45
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve never actually known anyone to do this.  It’s rude, tacky, bad form and every other negative adjective that could be said!  What an idiot!  Was he like 18 or something and thought it’d be such a great idea?  I would be so upset – especially at the fact that the sister left early.

    Post # 46
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    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Wow…I can’t believe the bride’s own sister left the reception to look at wedding stuff! That shocks me more than the boyfriend proposing. He could’ve at least waited until the end of the reception.

    I would definitely be as hurt as this bride was! It’s so sad that she didn’t have her moment…

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