(Closed) My friends sister got proposed to at HER wedding!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be upset if someone got proposed to at your wedding?
    ABSOLUTELY! This is MY day! : (287 votes)
    85 %
    No, I understand it was because everyone was there : (50 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It wouldn’t bother me as the bride, but if I were the one being proposed to at somebody else’s wedding I would be mortified.

    Post # 48
    Member
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    As described, that situation would make me EXTREMELY upset. Especially taking off with all her friends to go look at wedding stuff…during a WEDDING?! What a selfish brat.

    Now if I knew about it ahead of time or the couple kept it quite, then go for it. Heck I secretly want a couple friends of ours to get engaged at our wedding….I even have a song picked out for them to dance to (just in case, but I want to know). On a similar note, one of my FI’s best friends just got engaged and they are having their wedding the weekend after ours. I am super pumped about it because I get to spend two weekend partying at weddings, but he is upset about it. I think he feels like it will steal some of our thunder on our day since some of our mutual friends aren’t invited to their wedding (they want like 20-30 people tops) and are already asking if it would be okay to bring their gifts to our wedding. I can see where he is upset, but honestly I am happy we won’t be the ONLY ones out of our friends who are married!

    Post # 49
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I would have been very upset about this – I mean c’mon!!!!!

    And while I’d like to be a big person and say normally I wouldn’t mind as long as the people were really close to us, let us know beforehand, and did it at an appropriate time during the day, that’s just not true. I’m not an attention seeker by any means but for pete’s sake, our wedding day is about US and a lot of thought, time and effort went into it to make it that way.

    We hear over and over again that we get a wedding DAY, not weekend or week – to me this applies to this situation as well. There are 364 other days of the year that you can use to propose – feel free to use any one of them and don’t hijack our wedding!

    Post # 50
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    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would be SO MAD.

    AND they left early?? To look up wedding stuff online? C’MON. So immature, if I were your friend’s parents, I would be upset at that behavior.

    I have a secret fear that my Future Sister-In-Law will be proposed to at my wedding…bc her bf is a complete jerk and my Future Mother-In-Law is slightly crazy and would think it would be a good plan.

    Post # 51
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    What an ***! Your friend should announce that she’s pregnant, WITH TWINS, at their wedding, but I’m sure she has way more class than that!

    Post # 52
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    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    There’s not an option for what I and many other PP feel, I think.

    If it was tastefully done and I knew the couple extremely well and I knew beforehand how it would all go down, then of course I’d be okay with it.

    But – to do it like this – to clearly hijack the day that the bride and groom have worked so incredibly hard to create and then to leave early to look at wedding stuff (when surely, as the bride’s sister, you have been well-versed in all things wedding at this point) is simply awful.  The boyfriend and her sister were both incredibly insensitive and should spend a fair amount of time groveling for forgiveness, IMO.

    Post # 53
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    516 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    That is ridiculous- the day of your wedding should be about no one but YOU and YOUR NEW HUSBAND. People shouldn’t even feel they have the right to intrude. UGH!

    Post # 54
    Member
    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    wow that is just so innappropriate. They should be ashamed of themselves. The guy couldn’t have waited another 24 hours? Tacky tacky tacky. .. 

    Post # 55
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    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would wait until their wedding day.  Then after their first dance, pull the fire alarm.

    Just kidding, but proposing at your sibling’s wedding (let alone so early in the evening) is not the most thoughtful idea in the world!

    Post # 56
    Member
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor

    Yeah.. I think it would be okay IF he had asked the bride first. But he didn’t, so I think it’s pretty rude.

    She should announce her pregnancy at her sister’s wedding! (I am so mean)

    Post # 57
    Member
    2820 posts
    Sugar bee

    When I saw the title I thought, eh, I wouldn’t mind but then I read your post.  I would have been soooooo upset.  Mostly about my sister leaving my wedding to plan her own, really, you can’t wait a couple hours?

    I can see if he took her on a romantic walk and asked her but getting the microphone and making yourself the center of attention in such a big way is not cool.

    Post # 58
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    3124 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    the way they did it was tasteless – I would have been upset, too. That’s bad wedding mojo if I have ever heard of it. And this is an appropriate time to say: TACKY! haha

    There have to be a boat load of terms and conditions for proposing at another person’s wedding. The list would be so long that really it would not be appropriate to do. Couldn’t they have a long weekend somewhere like the rest of the world? What a moron.

    Post # 59
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    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    WOW!!! I thought it was only in movies that thinkgs like this happened… I would be LIVID if that happened at my wedding… and my sister especially… wow!  I would have a really hard time with that.  I would be excited she was engaged, but with so many other days in a year… why that one??

    Post # 60
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    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Not cool at all! I would be soo hurt if someone did that at my reception-it’s the bride and groom’s day!!! I can’t believe people have the audacity to do these things…not once did the guy think, “Hmmm, perhaps I shouldn’t steal their thunder?”  Awful…

    Post # 61
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Upset…. i’d be friggin pissed. that is totaly rude and disrespectful.

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