(Closed) My friends sister got proposed to at HER wedding!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be upset if someone got proposed to at your wedding?

    ABSOLUTELY! This is MY day!

    No, I understand it was because everyone was there

  • Post # 77
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    calling my sister right now and thanking her for not being a horrible biotch like this girl is…

    WOW jealous much?!? the sister seems VERY self-centered and EXTREMELY rude…

    I would be very upset if ANYONE who attended my wedding got proposed to at the actual event.  you can’t wait until later? you can’t do it earlier? please…

    One of my hubands friends didn’t know any better and proposed to his gf at a destination wedding we were all at for a mutual friend of ours.  All the girls were in shock, all the guys thought nothing of it, and the bride tried to play it off like it didn’t bother her, but CLEARLY she was bothered by it.  The girl kept talking about the ring and planning her wedding, and I get that she was clearly excited…but it was just the wrong time to do it. 

     

     

    Post # 78
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I wouldn’t have a problem with someone proposing at my wedding (no one did). However, I would be sad if my sister (I don’t have a sister) & friends left right away because of their excitement… because they’re at a wedding, my wedding, aren’t they excited anyway?

    Sucks that the sisters aren’t talking. I think the engaged sister is trying to be like the married sister. Maybe out of jealousy, maybe because she looks up to her. Maybe the engaged sister is a little embarrased about the proposal (I mean, its not like she KNEW that would happen then) & is trying to go along with it. Maybe she thinks its really romantic. Guys probably have no idea this isn’t a good thing thou! Hopefully the engaged sister quits being so “busy” & talks with her sister about things.

    Post # 79
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    For once, I am left speechless. I cannot believe how rude that was.

    Post # 80
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You should print out this post with its replies, and mail it to this horrible girl.

    I’m disgusted for your friend.  If I was their mother I would be so ashamed.

    Post # 81
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2009

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    @VintageDivine: Yes, I also keep thinking about how everyone else might be feeling about how this reflects on them, especially her mother.

    Post # 82
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree with VintageDivine, if I was that girl’s mother I would have let her hear an earful.  No, the mother can’t control that the boyfriend proposed during the wedding but she could tell her to stop being a little brat and leaving her own sister’s wedding.  SO RUDE.

    As for the proposal, I’m on the fence if I would be okay with it.  The DJ, jeez, no need to put the focus even more on the newly enaged couple at another couple’s wedding, who, yeah—is paying him!  I would want to know beforehand for sure and depending on it I would want to be in on the setup 😉  Seriously though, that girl leaving her own sister’s wedding and hauling off with the friends to go do research online—so freakin’ tacky.  So sad for your friend.  🙁    I hope your friend is doing okay and show her this post so she can see all the support she has here!

    Post # 83
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would be pissed if that was done at my wedding. That is so rude and I cannot believe anyone would think that was ok. people are so dumb

    Post # 84
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Wow. I think the way they went around this was extremely rude, tacky, and selfish. If the bride and groom were okay with it and it had been cleared by them, but from what I understand it wasn’t this way and the bride was obviously upset. They stole her and her groom’s thunder and her sister left early to do something that could easily wait. I don’t want to sound like a major bridezilla crazy, but if someone pulled something like that on my day, I’d be pissed. 

    Post # 85
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Oh. My. God. This is ridiculous. I would hate my future Brother-In-Law forever. I have a feeling though, that the sister seems incredibly spoiled and self centered so her behaviour might just be par for the course.

    I am 100% with Mr. Bee. I really would not be above orchestrating a little fire-alarm/sprinkler fiasco right after her first dance. All’s fair in love and wedding-ruinations!

    Post # 86
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2020

    If it were my wedding, I wouldn’t get upset but I would think it’s a TOTAL CHEESEBALL move for the guy doing the proposing.  And if I were the girl being proposed to, I would be annoyed with my fiance for chosing that place/time to do it.  Gag me. 

    Post # 87
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Holy crap!  That is just down right HORRIBLE!

    Post # 88
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    this is hideously tacky. if you want to propose to your gf at someone else’s wedding, on someone else’s special day, you sure as HELL do not INTERRUPT THE FIRST DANCE to do so. tacky tacky tacky! hopefully everyone else thought it was tacky too………..

    Post # 89
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I would be upset if that happened at my wedding.  Although the sister didn’t have a choice in when and how her boyfriend would propose, she could have chosen to cut their dance short and not to leave the reception early.

    Post # 90
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Honestly, I think it would depend on how close I am to the person who is getting engaged! Say my BFF’s fiance wanted to propose to her at my wedding, I would be so excited! I definately think the man should let the bride & groom know first though!

    That being said, its definately not for everyone! To me the wedding is all about excitement and joy! So another engagement would definately add to that! I am all for it!

    Post # 91
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    That is truly horrible. Especially making a spectacle of the whole thing. Couldn’t the guy have waited until a quiet moment for the two of them and told her that the wedding made him think blah blah blah and just had an intimate moment? They could have told people the next day and let the bride and groom have their evening. How selfish.

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